Performance anxiety..

[Jhcl4000]

I've been seeing a girl for a little while now and we always have amazing sex, but I've had a few random nights with her (and with other girls) where mini-me just hasn't cooperated, and last night was one of those nights. We were making out on the couch and I was getting exciting, but when we took it to the bedroom and our clothes came off I felt my heart start to beat really strongly and I knew it was gonna be one of "those" nights. Fortunately, I DID end up getting half hard and was able to penetrate, which led to me being fully hard, but I don't understand why this is happens. Some nights I'm great, but other times THIS sh*t happens. The ridiculous thing is, is that I saw her a couple days earlier and everything was great and "working properly" so to speak - no problems at all.

Another thing.. After a night like this I get a terrible feeling that I NEED to see her again ASAP so I can make it up to her/prove that I CAN get it up and f*ck her good, and also have thoughts in my head saying "christ, I couldn't get it up/get it up right away, she probably thinks I'm a limp d!ck and never wants to see me again.."

Has anyone else had bouts of performance anxiety or is able to offer me some advice?

 

[luckster]

I've been seeing a girl for a little while now and we always have amazing sex, but I've had a few random nights with her (and with other girls) where mini-me just hasn't cooperated, and last night was one of those nights. We were making out on the couch and I was getting exciting, but when we took it to the bedroom and our clothes came off I felt my heart start to beat really strongly and I knew it was gonna be one of "those" nights. Fortunately, I DID end up getting half hard and was able to penetrate, which led to me being fully hard, but I don't understand why this is happens. Some nights I'm great, but other times THIS sh*t happens. The ridiculous thing is, is that I saw her a couple days earlier and everything was great and "working properly" so to speak - no problems at all.

Another thing.. After a night like this I get a terrible feeling that I NEED to see her again ASAP so I can make it up to her/prove that I CAN get it up and f*ck her good, and also have thoughts in my head saying "christ, I couldn't get it up/get it up right away, she probably thinks I'm a limp d!ck and never wants to see me again.."

Has anyone else had bouts of performance anxiety or is able to offer me some advice?

There are tons of posts on here about this, I wish people would search rather than shoot for the New Thread button...

Anyway, check your diet and eat healthy/healthier. It could contribute to the issue. But besides that, try not to think about it. Its gonna be hard (haha) but just forget about that stuff and focus on her body, curves, skin, etc. and not about getting your soldier to salute. I've had it happen once or twice and the more you think about it, the worse it gets.

Know that what might be running through her mind is "He doesn't find me attractive" so she might feel the same as you do.

 

[movistar]

I have this problem when I'm forced to use a condom as well...
my advice is Cardio! Work up to 30 minutes running, or stair climber.. the problem will disappear.

 

[bigblock7]

If there is one area in life I am somewhat knowledgable about it is the human body lol. This has happened to me before. It be honest I recon alot of the time its psychological , which in affect causes a physiological response. When one is extremely stressed , anxious or nervous there can be excessive hormonal secretions such as epinephrine , non-epinephrine and cortisol. These hormonal secretions prep us for the fight - or - flight response. When this occurs it causes blood vessels to dilate to allow increased blood flow to skeletal muscle and specific organs. Also this occurrence causes vasoconstriction to occur , such as constricted blood flow to our digestive and reproductive system. Being relaxed gives your body a greater ability to allow blood to fill the penis and make it rigid to perform sexual activity.

 

[Alex DeLarge]

This has happened to me the past 3 times I have received a BJ. The first time I thought "Oh no big deal, whatever" then the first girl stopped talking to me.

The second time it happened every time the girl blew me. She stopped talking to me too.

The third time The same thing as the first. She just had a huge IL loss and stopped contacting me.

When considering short term goals (getting off with the girl) yeah it does suck.. But whatever, you just have to look past it and realize it happens to a lot of guys and it's not that big of a deal as everyone makes it seem.

But in the longterm, you're getting more comfortable and exposing yourself to more girls so this is less likely to happen in the future.

.. Or maybe the girls just gave me bad BJs lol.. Or maybe cause two of those times I was completely wasted and didn't really think about what was goin on. I got a few really awesome BJs from this fat chick when I was 17 stayed rock hard and busted in her mouth every time too.

 

[Mike32ct]

I have this problem when I'm forced to use a condom as well...
my advice is Cardio! Work up to 30 minutes running, or stair climber.. the problem will disappear.

^This. Highly recommended.

I will also give the standard but rarely heeded advice of eliminating porn and/or whacking off.