"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ArtVandelay

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There's a similar thread about HB10's going on, but I'm making a different point.

Some of you may remember a thread I posted about a month ago about wanting to sleep with a stripper so badly that I was willing to pay her. I followed up last week by saying that I haven't been to the strip club since and don't even remember what she looks like.

Looking back on it, I wasn't giving myself enough credit. I was admittedly drooling over her when I saw her at the bar talking to some old AFC. I went over, and when I talked to her, it was actually a let-down. Hearing her repeat the same questions, "So you're here on a Tuesday night with you're friends, why? You guys just decided it would be cool to go to a strip club?" Seeing her naked was also a let-down. She looked too perfect, her head down to her feet. Couldn't find a flaw on her. At the time, I was so caught up in seeing a so-called "HB10" and low in self-esteem that I thought, "The only way I'll ever have sex with an above average looking girl is to pay for it." Obviously, I came to my senses and realized that I don't have to pay to have sex with an above average looking woman, but more importantly, I realized, women, just like anything else in life, aren't meant to look perfect. This girl was like the Yankees: sound good on paper with so many superstars on their team, but it doesn't equal team chemistry and a winning formula.

I see guys posting pictures of models and porn stars on here and can't help but think, "Would you actually want to go out with such a woman?" I'm not saying looks don't matter, I'm saying that I'd rather take the 8 with a more unique look (Yes, another nod to Winona Ryder) and personality than the perfect, robotic girl.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When we can't have what we want, we turn our backs to it. It's the best revenge. But don't worry it is human to rationalize, and but you should be grateful you get to see a perfect 10 naked.
 

ArtVandelay

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"When we can't have what we want, we turn our backs to it."

I don't think so. I recently spent 5 months chasing a girl who had no interest in me. My point was that the perfect 10 is like the guitar player (Joe Satriani, for example, for those guitarists out there) who plays a million notes a second but can't slow down and play a melody with feeling.
 
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