"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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perfect match..but total slut

naes420

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ive had many many girls over the past few years...getting girls is no problem...there has always been this one that we have been off and on been really close friends to really into each other sexually....to even hating each other so much that all we do is insult each other, in actual hate for each other too lol....for about 4 years now actualy

she is kind of a slut...
scores a 9 on the scale for sure, gorgeous girl, im probably about a 8 or 7,the thing is ive been with so many girls and what ive noticed is that she has the perfect personality for me...we mix so damn well its not even funny..ive never had a girlfriend where we are so alike on so many levels....
anyways, the only problem is she has cheated on her boyfriends before, she is kind of a slut...thats good for me because i like more sexually experienced girls (i hate sex with virgins)...but she has cheated on her exs before...which i dont like,

well we recently just got over this bitter hate for each other...and we are getting closer now....i know i can pretty much have her any time i want.....
we've been in that bitter hate state for about 6 months until now so i didnt really get to see how she changed..but she claims she stopped cheating and sleeping around....its true, but they might do it any time anyways..


lets look at this now:
GOOD:
best personality mesh ive ever had..i know this for a fact
sexually experienced girl means great sex
known each other for along time and been through alot means longer lasting relationship

BAD:
im settling down now and im looking for a long term relationship as of now, and her past could catch up to her





ideas?

we are both 18 btw
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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GKitt

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The only advice I can really give for this is to talk to her about it. You've apparently already discussed that she cheated in the past, so it shouldn't be that touchy of a subject for her.

Just talk to her about a possible relationship and tell her that the only way you want any part of it is if she's committed to having an adult relationship (since you are both 18) and being completely monogamous.
 

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Wolf said:
OR he could just ask her out, she's already told him how "changed" she is so she would give the same answer to that, he's just gotta ask himself whether he can trust this girl.
Yes, but people do lie sometimes and it never hurts to reiterate things that have already been said. I don't think it'd be any big deal just to talk to her about it. It might also go to show her that he does want this to be something serious and it might make her try even harder to be faithful to him.
 

WesCottII

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I read the first line "I've had many many girls...."

So she's a slut but you're not? Just pointing out a double standard here Mr.

You've got to take the rough with the smooth, when I last had a LTR, it was with a girl who'd knocked off her share of guys (actually, alot of girls shares of guys), but I liked her enough, and she'd passed all my standards to make me NOT CARE. Just be mature about it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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SinJester

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Dude no one settles at 28. Rarely anyway. Probably less chicks then.

On topic. Too hard to answer for you man. You got to decide this by yourself. I say go for it.
 

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Methinks if you're relationship has fluxuated to the point of absolute hatred, perhaps your personalities don't mesh that well afterall?
 

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Guys, you can help him out, but just know he isn't being entirely honest with you.

He wrote this in another thread:

i have failed with women all of my life...im not a bad llooking kid im probably above average but i do look a little weird..i get aprouched all of the time but i always manage to **** it up...by being to quite..the only girl who has ever even cared about me (probably the only person period) i am loseing because recently its just been getting worse for me..
cheers lads!
 
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