Perceived skill vs real skill, messing with my head

[Bladerunner]

Background: I'm a young senior in HS (just turned 17) and have not had sex yet although I can count the number of girls I've hooked up with on two hands.

Issue: My early-mid game has gotten pretty damn good, so good that these girls I'm flirting with assume that I must have plenty of experience and after we hang out (not anywhere with workable logistics, unfortunately) will text me things like "Well it's hard to resist through text, but I would probably bite and choke and get a little kinky first before I succumb " just to give you an idea. My problem is when I run into a girl who knows what the fvck she's doing in bed and thinks I do too when I don't, and I feel like I'm subconsciously sabotaging myself from getting the lay because I'm worried not performing up to their standards. What can I do to help with this in terms of both mental and physical (i.e. ways of increasing stamina) solutions?

 

[Strelok]

You're 17,you are allowed to do any damn mistake you want while with a woman so take it easy.
And about the girls,you show the path and they will follow it no matter how much experience they have,and keep in mind that they lie too.

 

[Spade]

Dont worry bout that man.

You can always "Fake it till you make it", but always act as if you know what your doing. They should be performing up to your standard. Think in such a way.

But nonetheless, you can always educate yourself so u can handle the situation better. Theres a shyt load of stuff on the subject. Look online, try to download some books from Azarius or Limewire, and heck, u can even educate urself using porn lol.

But remember, something i do that helps a lot is I keep makin her want to qualify herself. I ask questions before, such as "Uve done this before right?" so shell try to show her quality n then u give dirty talk IOIs. She then feel qualified n it all goes well from ther.


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"Fear is a thief, It'll steal your life"

 

[eaglez1177]

Dont worry bout that man.

You can always "Fake it till you make it", but always act as if you know what your doing. They should be performing up to your standard. Think in such a way.

But nonetheless, you can always educate yourself so u can handle the situation better. Theres a shyt load of stuff on the subject. Look online, try to download some books from Azarius or Limewire, and heck, u can even educate urself using porn lol.

But remember, something i do that helps a lot is I keep makin her want to qualify herself. I ask questions before, such as "Uve done this before right?" so shell try to show her quality n then u give dirty talk IOIs. She then feel qualified n it all goes well from ther.


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"Fear is a thief, It'll steal your life"

I would definitely agree with what I bolded above.

Honestly man, Ive been in this situation before, I know exactly how you feel, and here is the answer: PRACTICE, PRACTICE, and then MORE PRACTICE.

NOBODY is gonna be good at sex their first time. Thats just plain and simple fact. You get better and better with practice. Heck, the first time I had sex I probably lasted a minute and a half, and had no idea wtf I was doing. But now, Ive had a lot of practice, and can last much longer.

Also, you're putting so much on what the girl is going to think of you when in bed. You're worried that she wont be satisfied, that you wont be as good as the other guys, all that. Ill say this: I felt the same way until I finally brought that issue up to a few different girls. They all gave me something along the lines of "not caring if the guy was inexperienced for his first time, happy to take their virginity, confused as to why guys freak out over this stuff, etc". Bottom line is that they WONT be as dissatisfied as you think they'll be. They really won't give a sh*t, and will still want to do it with you more cuz they know you'll get better. Dont feel bad just cuz ur a virgin man. Trust me, theres guys out there in their thirties that are still virgins. Your only 17. You're puttin way to much stress on such a small matter.

What also helped me out in the beginning (and idk if this will work for you) is if you jerk off before having sex. It will relieve A LOT of pressure, and will make you feel more relaxed. The urge to cvm when you're having sex also won't be as strong, because you came before. But, dont rely on this all the time, simply cuz its way tougher to cvm when havin sex, and if you do, it wont be that great.

That and if im ever high or drunk when having sex I can literally go for hours and hours. Theres a whole ton of stuff on this website and the internet though to fix the annoyances of premature ejaculation.

 

[Local Celebrity]

I recommened David DeAngelo's Sexual Secrets.