Yeah, I guess I could have gotten myself out of the situation but it was like I suggested to her that we drive in her car following everyone else and she agreed but my friends for some stupid reason overly suggested all of us piling into our frineds truck so I didn't wanna try too hard to get us to ride alone. If it was my car it would have been a different story in my opinion. Then again I will keep this in mind if this ever happens again. I treated it as a learning experience.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
PEOPLE TEASING YOU--How to deal with it?
- Thread starter otr4
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
GrimPhallic
Don Juan
If they are your friends, you should know something about them... weaknesses, past bad memories, etc. If they insult you on a level where you are mad or sad, open their closet and pull out their skeletons. Take it to a personal level. I personally would try to laugh it off first though as this keeps your DJ/secure status with the girl. Even better, if what they are saying has a meaning behind it, turn to the girl and explain at a somewhat quiet level what your friends are saying to her and why, but make it into a funny story or something. That would be the best thing to do because by turning to her and speaking on a some what quiet level it initiates kino and by making her laugh she will feel comfortable with it...
challenge one of the guys to a fight
go to shake his hand (or some other delay routine)
and then kick him in the nuts
this will make you seem wild and unpredicable, and no-one will start on you again.
TIP: this works well if someone starts on you in prison.
seriously tho, just try turing every insult back on them, like what cant think of a user name said.
I think Soild once used a line in a club to shut a guy up...
"Look mate, I've just asked around and no-one likes you"
classic!
If your fiends are like this tho and you're over 20, it might be time to find some new ones. Although, maybe American guys are like this - I dunno!
go to shake his hand (or some other delay routine)
and then kick him in the nuts
this will make you seem wild and unpredicable, and no-one will start on you again.
TIP: this works well if someone starts on you in prison.
seriously tho, just try turing every insult back on them, like what cant think of a user name said.
I think Soild once used a line in a club to shut a guy up...
"Look mate, I've just asked around and no-one likes you"
classic!
If your fiends are like this tho and you're over 20, it might be time to find some new ones. Although, maybe American guys are like this - I dunno!
Like I said before, ragging back will only escalate the situation and make it worse.
If it doesn't bother you, ignore it. If it does, stand up for yourself (which is different from trying to insult them back).
Either way, sounds like you need new friends ...
If it doesn't bother you, ignore it. If it does, stand up for yourself (which is different from trying to insult them back).
Either way, sounds like you need new friends ...
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
darthsidious
Banned
(motions you to come closer and presents you with a knife)
backstab those who backstab you.
backstab those who backstab you.
How to Fix this Problem
Realise: When guys hang out or meet together they VIBE. They have fun and joke. Teasing is a natural aspect of this and will happen in any male social circle.
It is your inner confidence that is the problem here.
What naturally happens is each guy in the group is taking it in turns to bust each others balls and determine the pecking order of the group.
Its a dominance thing.
If you are unaware of this then teasing can seem insulting and you'll end up feeling like a chode as your status and self-esteem is lowered.
What happens as a result of this:
1. You'll feel beta (not good for you)
2. You'll feel and look unattractive to female observers.
3. Your accusers (guys giving you beef) will look cool.
You can easily COUNTER this effect by:
1. Agreeing on anything that is said and then "Upsurping the Glory".
A nice trick is to do this simply by saying "YES, AND" to whatever is said.
For example:
Guy:"Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND, and i am so retarded that i spit more than you do!"
Guy: "Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND i left my wheelchair outside! Carry Me! (jump on him)"
Guy: "Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND you should see how i run!"
Guy: "Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND {insert whatever comes to mind}
Do this with a GRIN and be light hearted.
-What's happening here is you are owning your accusers' frame.
This is achieved by making fun of yourself to steal his glory from the JIBE
If you do this you are enhancing what has been said- much to the delight of the group.
1. You gain points.
2. People subconciuosly notice.
3. They realise they can joke with you and that i) you hold your own ii) bring value to the group
2. Appreciate the fact that BLOCKING what is said (by taking offence or giving beef back) is often detrimental to your own value.
When you block the natural flow ("the vibe") of the interaction, by "ragging" or taking offence you are losing status and your self-control. This is an overcompensation of insecurity.
So, understand that you are NOT accepting what they are saying (by just smiling or saying nothing) and you are not rejecting it (by taking insult).
>>>>>You are ENHANCING it.<<<<<<
Jesters, some of the most powerful people in the old medieval courts, had this whole idea down to a tee.
Doing this will avoid scenarios like fights because you agreeing with the insult for your own purpose.
3. Realise that a retort isnt about what you say -but how you say it.
I would always try and think of clever things to throw back at people to the point where the moment had passed.
Instead you can thow -ANYTHING- back.
Guy: "Dude you look like a cripple"
You: "Yes! And i smell like cabbage- take a sniff"
Let your unblocked imagination fill in the blanks.
Guy: "Dude you look like a cripple"
You: "Yes! And............"
4. Dimiss what is said by rolling your eyes and turning your back on you accuser.
This subcommunicates you don't care. Add a dimmisive wave also for bonus effect.
5. If you really want to maintain your dominace over the accuser, TOUCH HIM as you speak . A simple pat on the arm is sufficent.
6. In conclusion, these are just a
few little tricks.
A better method is to FIX this problem on the inside of your head. These tricks you work as props for you until you do.
Realise that each time you are getting teased is a chance to shine and raise your own value within the group.
If you do this you probably command a status that removes you from these types of game anyhow. How Ironic!
Have fun with these guys and do not taking anything personally. These are natural tests to expose a persons insecurities.
If you ARE HAVING FUN you cannot lose.
If you vibe with them you will increase your status in the group.
***
Additional Scenario:
'Suppose you are chatting to a girl and a guy comes over and starts to make fun of you. - What then??
~He is trying to expose your insecurities to lower your value infront to the girl- and boost his.
Do exactly the same thing as described previous. Roll with his jokes, touch him and laugh.
If it is in a lound environment, use the power of touch.
By vibing with him you are showing the girl you are socially savvy and...cool. You'll probably also befriend the guy (guys without insecurities often like other guys without insecurities).
Hope this helps, maggots!
Realise: When guys hang out or meet together they VIBE. They have fun and joke. Teasing is a natural aspect of this and will happen in any male social circle.
It is your inner confidence that is the problem here.
What naturally happens is each guy in the group is taking it in turns to bust each others balls and determine the pecking order of the group.
Its a dominance thing.
If you are unaware of this then teasing can seem insulting and you'll end up feeling like a chode as your status and self-esteem is lowered.
What happens as a result of this:
1. You'll feel beta (not good for you)
2. You'll feel and look unattractive to female observers.
3. Your accusers (guys giving you beef) will look cool.
You can easily COUNTER this effect by:
1. Agreeing on anything that is said and then "Upsurping the Glory".
A nice trick is to do this simply by saying "YES, AND" to whatever is said.
For example:
Guy:"Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND, and i am so retarded that i spit more than you do!"
Guy: "Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND i left my wheelchair outside! Carry Me! (jump on him)"
Guy: "Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND you should see how i run!"
Guy: "Hey dude you look like a cripple"
You: "YES AND {insert whatever comes to mind}
Do this with a GRIN and be light hearted.
-What's happening here is you are owning your accusers' frame.
This is achieved by making fun of yourself to steal his glory from the JIBE
If you do this you are enhancing what has been said- much to the delight of the group.
1. You gain points.
2. People subconciuosly notice.
3. They realise they can joke with you and that i) you hold your own ii) bring value to the group
2. Appreciate the fact that BLOCKING what is said (by taking offence or giving beef back) is often detrimental to your own value.
When you block the natural flow ("the vibe") of the interaction, by "ragging" or taking offence you are losing status and your self-control. This is an overcompensation of insecurity.
So, understand that you are NOT accepting what they are saying (by just smiling or saying nothing) and you are not rejecting it (by taking insult).
>>>>>You are ENHANCING it.<<<<<<
Jesters, some of the most powerful people in the old medieval courts, had this whole idea down to a tee.
Doing this will avoid scenarios like fights because you agreeing with the insult for your own purpose.
3. Realise that a retort isnt about what you say -but how you say it.
I would always try and think of clever things to throw back at people to the point where the moment had passed.
Instead you can thow -ANYTHING- back.
Guy: "Dude you look like a cripple"
You: "Yes! And i smell like cabbage- take a sniff"
Let your unblocked imagination fill in the blanks.
Guy: "Dude you look like a cripple"
You: "Yes! And............"
4. Dimiss what is said by rolling your eyes and turning your back on you accuser.
This subcommunicates you don't care. Add a dimmisive wave also for bonus effect.
5. If you really want to maintain your dominace over the accuser, TOUCH HIM as you speak . A simple pat on the arm is sufficent.
6. In conclusion, these are just a
few little tricks.
A better method is to FIX this problem on the inside of your head. These tricks you work as props for you until you do.
Realise that each time you are getting teased is a chance to shine and raise your own value within the group.
If you do this you probably command a status that removes you from these types of game anyhow. How Ironic!
Have fun with these guys and do not taking anything personally. These are natural tests to expose a persons insecurities.
If you ARE HAVING FUN you cannot lose.
If you vibe with them you will increase your status in the group.
***
Additional Scenario:
'Suppose you are chatting to a girl and a guy comes over and starts to make fun of you. - What then??
~He is trying to expose your insecurities to lower your value infront to the girl- and boost his.
Do exactly the same thing as described previous. Roll with his jokes, touch him and laugh.
If it is in a lound environment, use the power of touch.
By vibing with him you are showing the girl you are socially savvy and...cool. You'll probably also befriend the guy (guys without insecurities often like other guys without insecurities).
Hope this helps, maggots!
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PVSSY-EATER
Banned
Mukester, simply awesome
Mukester that was awesome dude..........
I do what you say all the time, but know I understand WHY it works. Can you do me a favor?
If you are reading this, it seems like you may know something about self-defense and street fighting as well, can you do a good post on that for your old buddy Pvssy Eater, huh, huh, huh.....
you Steve Nash looking idiot!
(I am testing to see if you have any insecurities with that joke....haha, thats humor dawg, but fo real, can you do a post)
Mukester that was awesome dude..........
I do what you say all the time, but know I understand WHY it works. Can you do me a favor?
If you are reading this, it seems like you may know something about self-defense and street fighting as well, can you do a good post on that for your old buddy Pvssy Eater, huh, huh, huh.....
you Steve Nash looking idiot!
(I am testing to see if you have any insecurities with that joke....haha, thats humor dawg, but fo real, can you do a post)
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
it happens occasionally to every 1 i think
usually if it happens to me, i do 1 of 2 things
1. I clown on them back, but in a funny way, and usually something that makes what they were saying look like nothing, they usually ain't got the wit to think up something straight away, that puts them back on top
2. If i cant top what there saying abt me, I just make a lil fun of myself, and laugh it off with them, when they see i'm laughin at it myself, they see that I ain't bothered and leave it.
usually if it happens to me, i do 1 of 2 things
1. I clown on them back, but in a funny way, and usually something that makes what they were saying look like nothing, they usually ain't got the wit to think up something straight away, that puts them back on top
2. If i cant top what there saying abt me, I just make a lil fun of myself, and laugh it off with them, when they see i'm laughin at it myself, they see that I ain't bothered and leave it.
Delta Male
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Everybody on this forum should go back and read Mukester's reply about five times. Excellent post.
If you take offence or try to start a fight, you are subcommunicating that you are insecure. If you are confident and take what is said as a JOKE, and respond accordingly, you will be fine.
-Dan
If you take offence or try to start a fight, you are subcommunicating that you are insecure. If you are confident and take what is said as a JOKE, and respond accordingly, you will be fine.
-Dan
Yeah Mukester post is spot on.
I just realised I do something that seems to work well in most situations:
If someone taunts you in any way, just look at them and say "Thanks" and smile. Maybe even give em a hi-five or thumbs up. Normally does the trick. Even gets a laugh sometimes, esp when done if a girl is testing you.
With my close friends I like to use "Hey man, you say the nicest things" - used that today
If some is being sarcastic towards you e.g
"Hey man, that hair cut is soooooo cOOOOOOOOOOOL"
Just take it literally and say "Cheers dude" and smile again. Completely takes them off balance.
No need to try so hard, cos at the end of the day, i dont really give a sh1t what they think anyway. heh.
If someone is really pissing you off, stare at them until they look away. If violence aint your thing, just walk away. If anyone asks, he wasn't worth the time or energy.
I just realised I do something that seems to work well in most situations:
If someone taunts you in any way, just look at them and say "Thanks" and smile. Maybe even give em a hi-five or thumbs up. Normally does the trick. Even gets a laugh sometimes, esp when done if a girl is testing you.
With my close friends I like to use "Hey man, you say the nicest things" - used that today
If some is being sarcastic towards you e.g
"Hey man, that hair cut is soooooo cOOOOOOOOOOOL"
Just take it literally and say "Cheers dude" and smile again. Completely takes them off balance.
No need to try so hard, cos at the end of the day, i dont really give a sh1t what they think anyway. heh.
If someone is really pissing you off, stare at them until they look away. If violence aint your thing, just walk away. If anyone asks, he wasn't worth the time or energy.
Excellent advice. It makes them look like they have to lash out at you to cope with their lives, rather than cope with it themselves. I know because sometimes people give me flack about things, and this response takes them for surprise...they get floundered and don't know what to do.
I was gonna post a reply but Mukester beat me to it
Remember - with real friends you'll be part of the joke, not the joke itself. (i.e. the teasing naturally won't bother you.)
Remember - a girl judges you by the friends you keep. So don't make friends with pricks.
Remember - with real friends you'll be part of the joke, not the joke itself. (i.e. the teasing naturally won't bother you.)
Remember - a girl judges you by the friends you keep. So don't make friends with pricks.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
darthsidious
Banned
kick them in the balls
it is the only...option
it is the only...option