"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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People relax when I give out my business cards after approaching...

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Alle_Gory said:
"OMG! It's that creepy dude. I think he's going to ask me out... Noooo..."

*Business Card*

"Sigh, oh. Whew! Was worried for a moment..."
loooooooooool
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Scars said:
I think it's a cop-out. You're afraid of rejection. Leave the business cards at home unless you plan on promoting your business. If you plan to do pick-up, leave them at home.
The thing is, any person is a potential customer, or may know someone who is a potential customer so you are always promoting your business. Maybe someone in their family, or their older brother or sister may be thinking of buying or selling. You never know. Goes with any business that needs prospecting. Anyone can be a customer.
 
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Igetit! said:
Because if it's the latter,then once you give a girl your card,how do you switch from talking about being a realtor to asking her out without activating her defenses?
My concept is this. If a girl likes you and really wants you, the business card approach is just a point of contant to facilitate that. Any girl who likes me or wants me is going to be coooperative giving out her name or number, and/or following up with me and/or make up some excuse to be around me even if fake interest is feigned in Real-Estate.

What is worst is if a girl likes you out there -- AND YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT -- she can't contact you and you can't contact her and it's off into oblivion.

I'm not doing number closes yet on the cards, I'm just interested in getting comfortable with approaching for now so I'm not at the point of transitioning from business frame to dating frame.

Real-Estate is all about building social networks and befriending people anyway. Part of Networking, taught by Brain Buffini (reputable Real-Estate coach), is to send out personal notes, visit past clients, and take people out for coffee and chat with them to build business connections. Brain Buffini may as well be a social relations pick-up artist guru -- because his program is all about making people feel special.

That's why I think you can have mixed-motivations (business and pick-up) when giving out cards.
 

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What the heck are you discussing Luke Skywalker?

I would write my number on her hand if I wanted to. It doesn't matter. What matters is whether or not she is attracted to you!
 

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Luke Skywalker said:
The thing is, any person is a potential customer, or may know someone who is a potential customer so you are always promoting your business. Maybe someone in their family, or their older brother or sister may be thinking of buying or selling. You never know. Goes with any business that needs prospecting. Anyone can be a customer.
This is SoSuave.com, not SoBusinessSavvy.com.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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can people PLEASE do their research, and search his threads, and realize that he is BEYOND help

you fools are wasting your time typing to try to help this freak
 

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Luke Skywalker said:
My concept is this. If a girl likes you and really wants you, the business card approach is just a point of contant to facilitate that. Any girl who likes me or wants me is going to be coooperative giving out her name or number, and/or following up with me and/or make up some excuse to be around me even if fake interest is feigned in Real-Estate.
Reality isn't a cheezy 70s porno movie. Chicks don't develop feelings from the time you make eye contact to the time you hand out a business card.

What is worst is if a girl likes you out there -- AND YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT -- she can't contact you and you can't contact her and it's off into oblivion.
She doesn't want to contact you....


Hello? Anybody in there?
 
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Igetit! said:
Man I bought that book a looong time ago,like maybe 7 or 8 years ago. Back at that point in time,that book helped me more than any other book,reading material,or any other person ever did.
I actually go on their website still up to today and think they have allot of inspirational things to say. The last book I've purchased was being the bad boy that women want, but I sort of just got lost with that, but they have an interesting sort of approach. I may look at this book again later.

I'm looking at their mastery CD course right now on their web. While I'm not planning to buy any more "wares", the information on that site is still interesting.

For example, today I learned that I'm a 'quick-fix' solution type of guy. Other things discussed is how frustration or perfectionism is also getting in the way. I think these guys Ron Louis and David Copeland have a healthy and balanced approached that I feel comfortable with. I'm continuing to read their stuff.

http://www.howtosucceedwithwomen.com/learn/05/index.html

This particular link talks about "Interrputing" women. It's something that has to be learned. Giving out business cards interrupts women, while promoting the business at the same time. As I give out business cards, I'm learning to interrupt someone and get their attention.
 

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The Logical Player said:
can people PLEASE do their research, and search his threads, and realize that he is BEYOND help

you fools are wasting your time typing to try to help this freak
This. :yes:
 
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