"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
People relax when I give out my business cards after approaching...
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Luke Skywalker
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The thing is, any person is a potential customer, or may know someone who is a potential customer so you are always promoting your business. Maybe someone in their family, or their older brother or sister may be thinking of buying or selling. You never know. Goes with any business that needs prospecting. Anyone can be a customer.Scars said:I think it's a cop-out. You're afraid of rejection. Leave the business cards at home unless you plan on promoting your business. If you plan to do pick-up, leave them at home.
Luke Skywalker
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My concept is this. If a girl likes you and really wants you, the business card approach is just a point of contant to facilitate that. Any girl who likes me or wants me is going to be coooperative giving out her name or number, and/or following up with me and/or make up some excuse to be around me even if fake interest is feigned in Real-Estate.Igetit! said:Because if it's the latter,then once you give a girl your card,how do you switch from talking about being a realtor to asking her out without activating her defenses?
What is worst is if a girl likes you out there -- AND YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT -- she can't contact you and you can't contact her and it's off into oblivion.
I'm not doing number closes yet on the cards, I'm just interested in getting comfortable with approaching for now so I'm not at the point of transitioning from business frame to dating frame.
Real-Estate is all about building social networks and befriending people anyway. Part of Networking, taught by Brain Buffini (reputable Real-Estate coach), is to send out personal notes, visit past clients, and take people out for coffee and chat with them to build business connections. Brain Buffini may as well be a social relations pick-up artist guru -- because his program is all about making people feel special.
That's why I think you can have mixed-motivations (business and pick-up) when giving out cards.
daygameguy
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I would write my number on her hand if I wanted to. It doesn't matter. What matters is whether or not she is attracted to you!
This is SoSuave.com, not SoBusinessSavvy.com.Luke Skywalker said:The thing is, any person is a potential customer, or may know someone who is a potential customer so you are always promoting your business. Maybe someone in their family, or their older brother or sister may be thinking of buying or selling. You never know. Goes with any business that needs prospecting. Anyone can be a customer.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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you fools are wasting your time typing to try to help this freak
Reality isn't a cheezy 70s porno movie. Chicks don't develop feelings from the time you make eye contact to the time you hand out a business card.Luke Skywalker said:My concept is this. If a girl likes you and really wants you, the business card approach is just a point of contant to facilitate that. Any girl who likes me or wants me is going to be coooperative giving out her name or number, and/or following up with me and/or make up some excuse to be around me even if fake interest is feigned in Real-Estate.
She doesn't want to contact you....What is worst is if a girl likes you out there -- AND YOU DON'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT -- she can't contact you and you can't contact her and it's off into oblivion.
Hello? Anybody in there?
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I actually go on their website still up to today and think they have allot of inspirational things to say. The last book I've purchased was being the bad boy that women want, but I sort of just got lost with that, but they have an interesting sort of approach. I may look at this book again later.Igetit! said:Man I bought that book a looong time ago,like maybe 7 or 8 years ago. Back at that point in time,that book helped me more than any other book,reading material,or any other person ever did.
I'm looking at their mastery CD course right now on their web. While I'm not planning to buy any more "wares", the information on that site is still interesting.
For example, today I learned that I'm a 'quick-fix' solution type of guy. Other things discussed is how frustration or perfectionism is also getting in the way. I think these guys Ron Louis and David Copeland have a healthy and balanced approached that I feel comfortable with. I'm continuing to read their stuff.
http://www.howtosucceedwithwomen.com/learn/05/index.html
This particular link talks about "Interrputing" women. It's something that has to be learned. Giving out business cards interrupts women, while promoting the business at the same time. As I give out business cards, I'm learning to interrupt someone and get their attention.
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This. :yes:The Logical Player said:can people PLEASE do their research, and search his threads, and realize that he is BEYOND help
you fools are wasting your time typing to try to help this freak