People never show up at appointments

[Dogfish]

Hey.

Thins is more a general question, although not totally viod of women.

For a couple of years, I've experienced that people are extremely nonpunctual and unreliable when it comes to fix appoinments.

Just a few examples:
Couple of my "friends" wanted to go to Munich (which I live near) and we agree upon leaving at 8 the o'clock following morning.
So I show up at the station at 10 to 8, waiting for the train - and noone came. So when the train came, I wrote them a textmessage like "Where are you?".
Couple of minutes later, the answer was: "Oh, we already left at 7:15... sorry for not telling you."

Next thing:
I call my friend, and we said that he was gonna pick me up at 2pm. So i waited and at 2:30pm, a textmessage came, saying "I'm sorry, still at home, getting my cats ready for the doctors. I'll get you after that."
He eventually came at 4pm, after I've been ready for 2h already.

Next thing:
I write this chick, "Hey, wana go eat ice-cream tonight?" She's like: "Yeah sure, I'm in town anyway, meet you at quarter to nine at the parlor."
I get to the parlor at 8:45p, waiting, 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes with noone showing up. I bike home and just as I reach my front porch, incoming textmessage "Coming a bit later" - although it was already 9:10pm.

I just replied: "I'm already home :|"


Is this me? How can I avoid this in the future? I hate getting ready and sharp for half an hour just to be left sitting and waiting.
Should I wait longer?

 

[Obsidian]

yeah, ppl just suck. I've had friends like that. I usually just quit asking them to do stuff.

i'd definitely next a girl over it

 

[PrinceBeavis]

5 maybe 10 minutes late is one thing, but after that sucks!

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Lateness can happen to anybody, but CHRONIC lateness is really just a form of ARROGANCE.

People (in this case, WOMEN in particular) often exhibit tardiness as a passive/agressive way of subconsciously communicating to the ON-TIME person that "they" are the star of the show------not "them". What they are really telling you by being late ALL THE TIME is that they are somehow better or more important than you.

Using "a woman" as just a general example of this. Answer THESE questions, if you can:

Is this woman late for her job? Is she late for school? Is she late for doctor's appointments? If the answer to all these questions is "YES", then she probably has a problem with respecting OTHER people's timetables IN GENERAL.

But if she's on time for THESE appointments and is ONLY late when "you" want to see her, THEN she probably only has a problem respecting "YOU" in PARTICULAR.

And if so, this IS a sign of a consistent AND continuing disrespect that she is showing you.


Consider this:

Even a BROKEN clock is on time TWICE a day.

So if this woman ISN'T consistently disrespecting YOUR timetable ON PURPOSE-------then she would HAVE to be "on time" every now and then just by fukkin' MISTAKE. Wouldn't she????


Think about it...

 

[Dogfish]

My method is:

I get there right on time. Not a minute late or early.

If she's not there, i take a walk around the neighbourhood for 15 minutes.

I come back in 15 minutes to check. If she's not there, I will call her and ask her how long it's going to be till she gets here.

Depending on her response and the tonality she says it with, I might choose to wait or leave.

I do have a bit of tolerance towards tardiness because I know sometimes it's just not practical to be on time, traffic, maybe you took 5 extra minutes to look good.. or whatever the case might be... but being 1hour late is unacceptable.

sounds practicable, thanks for the tip.

 

[Potbelly]

I have not experienced this much as you...or maybe I jsut can't remember.

But I konw that whenever I AM LATE or know that I Will be LATE, I will always send that person an e-mail, call them, whatever. I will let them know somehow that I will be running late and for them to do something or reschedule if possible.

this shows lack of respect in my opinoin