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"People aren't open to being approached by a stranger during the day," let's discuss.

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Outside of a venue such as a bar, club, concert, etc.
Do you think people aren't open to being approached by a stranger?

My personal view on the subject is when approaching people outside of 'going out', people aren't looking to be social.
They're looking to shop, have lunch and generally do errands.

Keep in mind I'm not a big 'sarger' or anything.
I'd never go out of my way to go into a public place doing approaches when women will be everywhere from work to the bus home.

This is my take; what's yours?

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I like your replies.
One last question.

You guys are all basically saying the same thing.
Is that because this site encourages a certain individual or is that because this site, itself has encouraged you to think a particular way.
 
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Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

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Oh, I think plenty of women are. Especially if you are good-looking or interesting.

But alot of them just want to get on with their day and may ignore you. So make sure you're prepared for rejections.
 

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I personally think that if you can spark some attraction switches before talking to her then she would love to talk to you. Being confident swagger and all.
 

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Would you like it if you were just going about your day shopping/whatever and an attractive girl came up to you and started chatting you up?

They would too.
 

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Confidence is key, imagine you are a woman, and you're being approached by a shakey lookin' guy, mumbling "hello" and not really doing much else. Hell this alone would start alarm bells ringing, I would immediately turn away and ignore the "weirdo". However, if a wonderfully fantastic charasmatic dude walked right over confidently and did a magic trick with some cards I'd wanna talk to him.

Be different, but be confident. Difference alone causes confusion to normality, confusion causes ignorance, ignorance= rejection.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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women are constantly approached by men that they consider to be sub parr.. so you had better be very good looking very rich or very smooth to get a good response from a random female in public.

cute guy approaches = how sweet
ugly guy approaches = harassment

Most men, on the other had, are happy for attention form any female that is at least a 3 in looks (many will be happy with lower than that..lol)

Ugly woman = glad but not proud
Cute woman = thank god
 

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Everyones views are interesting.
Particularly how people tend to adupt this pseudo-sosuave mindset.

One last thing.
You guys are all basically saying the same thing.
Is that because this site encourages a certain individual or is that because this site, itself has encouraged you to think so positively?
 

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I just did it. Got back from the health club 10 minutes ago, this tall skinny MILF hopped on the bike next to me, and I knew I had to catch her before that earpiece went in.

Me: "Hey, what's up?"
Her, coldly "Hi"
Me, "Happy Halloween, what are you going as?"
Her "Nothing, I like to watch other people" "And you?"
Me: "Boris Karloff"
Give it a minute....hit a rough set on the bike...finished it, ignoring her. Caught her watching the local news channel. The were panning a story on some guy doing art by smashing pumpkins off a rooftop.
Me: "Hey, that looks like fun!" Staring, not looking away.
Her, removes earpiece "Yeah, it does." Smile.
Me: "I wanna do that"
Her: "Yeah, no kidding!"
Me: "That's it. It's on my bucket list."

Right then my hour ended, and I said later and left. I'm slapping myself, I didn't have the stones to expand the conversation and attempt a number close....this is tough at the gym.

I have a girlfriend, but I do cold approaches like this at least once a week, primarily just as a rush, and to stay in shape in case I get dumped.

Moral of the story - be happy...and spread the happiness. Everyone loves being approached. The more you do it the more natural it becomes and the more success you will have.
 

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DonGorgon said:
women are constantly approached by men that they consider to be sub parr.. so you had better be very good looking very rich or very smooth to get a good response from a random female in public.

cute guy approaches = how sweet
ugly guy approaches = harassment

Most men, on the other had, are happy for attention form any female that is at least a 3 in looks (many will be happy with lower than that..lol)

Ugly woman = glad but not proud
Cute woman = thank god
I think it's

highly sexualized male approaches = she hates him or loves him - there is no neutrality in her FEELINGS

dormant non-testosteronized nice male (who is a suck-hard to feminism) approaches = she smiles and says "how cute" you're so friendly

it's all about YOU, if you're kickin ass out in the real world, then EVERY woman should want to be apart of your REAL world
 

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who cares what "they" are "looking" to do when they go out......i hate the word "approaching", just strike up a conversation naturally
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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This sounds like a bunch of theory and no first hand experience...

What does her having to be open to meeting you have to do with YOU?

For me personally when I go up to a chick it's a lifetime opportunity for her. It's more important than anything she is currently doing, whether she's with her BF, on the phone, late for work, etc. This is why they generally stop and interact with me.

Too many guys talk and talk which leads to them making assumptions without going out to gain experience/knowledge. You can't make up theory or beliefs without checking the proof in the pudding.
 
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