"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"although it never mattered to me , i did date a guy or two that wanted to know everything you ever did, and then once you told them what they wanted to know, they couldn't handle the information and went crazy nuts, leaving your entire relationship ruined."

WOW...I havent been here in a while and was just looking around and noticed this post you wrote...and I said ****...that kinda sounds like me...i havent exactly reached the "crazy" stage yet but i find myself asking alot of probing questions lately. I have been with this girl for over 1 year and things are great...I am her first long term relation. and she is great....

I will ask a question very casually about her past and then get a feeling she doesnt want to share and keep probing until we end up fighting...I will admit I get mad over stupid crap lately..(might be stressed from my new job)...She even used the words "jealous" on me and it totally caught me off guard cause that is the first time it came up....I am man enough to admit this much but I guess I`m wondering if you can help guide me in the right direction or maybe give me examples on what your ex`s would bring up....

I really feel bad for her because I`m always telling her to be honest with me and then get mad if it`s something bad. DOn`t get me wrong this girl hardly has a past if any which is maybe why I get so frustrated but I always get the feeling she is not telling the WHOLE story..(but why should she right?)...

and she NEVER asks me about my past...don`t know how to interpret that..

Hope you can shoot some advice my way...

THanks
J
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I have the exact opposite of what was just discussed.

My girlfriend and I always regale each other in sexual adventures with previous partners and we talked about what we do and do not like.

We have managed to figure out a lot of new sexual techniques for each other.

This is probably rare within most people though.

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AFCs, that are low self esteem and extremely insecure, and unhappy in their lives are the ones who need constant reaffirmation and reassurance.
 
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bosshogg, i thought i emailed you back on 11-28-07 when you sent me this email. this is what i wrote to you:

perhaps she doesn't ask because your past doesn't matter to her, she loves you anyways. or perhaps she does not ask because by knowing something, it would drive her crazy or perhaps she just doesn't want to start a fight. or there is always the case that she just doesn't care about your past as much as you want her to.
find a balance with this, within yourself.
sometimes not sharing every detail is for your own good.
:) hope you have a good day
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i stand behind the " sometimes not sharing every detail is for your own good because less is more. however someone else's life was before they met you, their trials and tribulations, formed their character of who they are now.
 
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You are insecure. A woman's 'past' doesn't interest me much, I know I'm the best she's ever had or is going to get. Objectively, that could sound hopelessly, delusionally arrogant. But any other mindset will worry the womenfolk that maybe you're not all that. Also it's true, I'm awesome.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The past is the past. Aslong as she is loyal and faithful to you now. The past don't matter. Unless she did some things that go against your beliefs that may be a problem.
 
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thanks guys

the funny thing is that i`m not insecure. I even admitted to her that I was acting strange lately. Been together over 1 year and this NEVER came up.

It`s not so much her "past" that bothers me, its the fact that I can openly talk about mine and she does NOT want to talk about hers, which leads me to believe she is hiding something from me.

And there is no need to call me an AFC, i find it very comical, I am here looking for mature feedback not name calling.

Thanks
 
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