"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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okay i bought a peacoat from Macys a kenneth cole one on sale. I am about 5-8, 155lbs and bought a Medium. It looked good from there but when i got home it looks longer and i will be going to return it next week.

I buy medium in shirts, and sweaters and they fit perfectly. The peacoat literally covers my entire behind and it looks huge on me when i do not have it buttoned. Other jackets i buy medium are a lot smaller than that. Are peacoats suppose to just below the hip maybe 3 inches or so? I am 5 8 and would find it weird to buy a small. Could it just be this model that is bigger than its true size?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Topcoats are typically a little larger than a jacket since people occasionally wear a heavy sweater or another jacket under it (think about layering). Personally, when buying topcoats I bring along a tape measure too. First I make sure the coat fits in the shoulders and then I measure the sleeves to make sure that they fall where they should.

You may have a short torso like I do. I too wear a medium coat but I'm 5'11 and 175lbs, my problem is finding things with long enough sleeves that doesn't hang off of me like a tent.
 

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Wow, I'm about the exact same as you, add five or so pounds. I too have bought a couple peacoats/wool coats over the past year only to try them on in front of the mirror at home and decide they just look too long on me. It sucks....finding coats of certain styles that aren't too long can be a real pain in the ass for me.

Peacoats I think are supposed to go maybe halfways between the waist and the bottom of your...bottom, maybe an inch or two lower depending on what you can pull off with your height. You just have to shop around.....or find one you really like despite the length, and get it shortened.
 

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warrior1 said:
The peacoat literally covers my entire behind and it looks huge on me when i do not have it buttoned.
If it's a true peacoat, i.e., double-breasted, it should be big when unbuttoned, and you should never be wearing it unbuttoned, so it should be fine.
 

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Since you bought it on sale, it might be worthwhile to bring it to a tailor. See what they have to say about it; if you can get it fitted perfectly to your frame for $30 bucks then I'd say go for it... in addition, they are professionals and will be able to tell you if you should go back for a size small with far more certainty than a handful of people who haven't ever seen it on you will be able to.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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wait, i heard of tailored but never understood what i meant. Are you saying by getting it tailored i can actually have the peacoat "cut short" a little bit to adjust to what i want it? Since this is a final product, i never knew u can do that if thats the case?
 

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warrior1 said:
wait, i heard of tailored but never understood what i meant. Are you saying by getting it tailored i can actually have the peacoat "cut short" a little bit to adjust to what i want it? Since this is a final product, i never knew u can do that if thats the case?
"Tailored" = altered. If it's too long, you can get it shortened.
 
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