she's driving about 20-30 minutes to meet me at a place she's not familiar with. i already told her fuel is on me... am i being too nice? i don't have a car by the way so yeah. was just gonna give her ten dollars when she drops me off home (down the road)
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
pay for fuel on first date?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Chickfight
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Yeah, that's pretty lame.
Drop the "is on me" line. Even if you plan to pay for something, don't say that. Comes off as desperate for her to meet you and too eager to please. Maybe even insecure like you are afraid she wouldn't come if she actually had to give up something.
Drop the "is on me" line. Even if you plan to pay for something, don't say that. Comes off as desperate for her to meet you and too eager to please. Maybe even insecure like you are afraid she wouldn't come if she actually had to give up something.
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Since you said you would give her gas money, you should keep your word. Don't mention it again until the end of the date. When she drops you off, mention it casually. "Lemme give ya a few bucks for gas.". Then hand her $10 or whatever.
If you live in California or Connecticut, give her a fifty lol. Just kidding.
If she refuses to take the money, don't argue with her. At least you made the offer.
I don't consider it an AFC move, but I am concerned about you setting a precedent and having to pay each time she picks you up. If it comes to that, maybe offer every once in a while. Paying her every time is overkill because a 20 to 30 minute drive is no big deal.
If you live in California or Connecticut, give her a fifty lol. Just kidding.
If she refuses to take the money, don't argue with her. At least you made the offer.
I don't consider it an AFC move, but I am concerned about you setting a precedent and having to pay each time she picks you up. If it comes to that, maybe offer every once in a while. Paying her every time is overkill because a 20 to 30 minute drive is no big deal.
I think its better to take that ten dollars and spontaneously spend it on something on the date instead of verbalizing that it's for gas.
Maybe a round or two of drinks on you or something of that sort.
Always bset when you do this as a non verbal thing imo.
Maybe a round or two of drinks on you or something of that sort.
Always bset when you do this as a non verbal thing imo.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Personally, I think it comes off as you needing to pay her to come see you. Driving 25 min is probably equal to about $1.50 in gas (depending on actual mileage). If she won't spare that much to come see you, you have more issues than offering to pay for it.
