Our life is for the most part, the sum of our habits.
When we are interacting with someone, we tend to follow a set of patterns that we consistency use. For example, some people you know may always respond to a statement in a humorous manner. Another person may complain, no matter what the subject matter is. Or it maybe something smaller- how every time someone talks about sex, they giggle. WHAT we talk about may be different every time, but our ways of thinking and responding to these things are quite similar from interaction to interaction.
I was reading a post on someone complaining how boring girls are, and how they're not worth being friends with. But this very same person was scared of talking about something that truly interested him (philosophy) for fear of "boring the hell out of them." I don't know about you guys, but I talk about philosophy ALL THE TIME with people- both male and female. The point is, if you go into an interaction with the same "pattern" every time, you'll just keep on getting what you've gotten before. If all you can do is be ****y and funny towards girls, then is it really a surprise that you never seem to discuss the existence of God with them? If you're being so damn entertaining and commanding of the conversation, is it really a surprise that you don't hear any funny jokes or anecdotes from them more often?
Change your patterns and try out different things. Be in the moment.
When we are interacting with someone, we tend to follow a set of patterns that we consistency use. For example, some people you know may always respond to a statement in a humorous manner. Another person may complain, no matter what the subject matter is. Or it maybe something smaller- how every time someone talks about sex, they giggle. WHAT we talk about may be different every time, but our ways of thinking and responding to these things are quite similar from interaction to interaction.
I was reading a post on someone complaining how boring girls are, and how they're not worth being friends with. But this very same person was scared of talking about something that truly interested him (philosophy) for fear of "boring the hell out of them." I don't know about you guys, but I talk about philosophy ALL THE TIME with people- both male and female. The point is, if you go into an interaction with the same "pattern" every time, you'll just keep on getting what you've gotten before. If all you can do is be ****y and funny towards girls, then is it really a surprise that you never seem to discuss the existence of God with them? If you're being so damn entertaining and commanding of the conversation, is it really a surprise that you don't hear any funny jokes or anecdotes from them more often?
Change your patterns and try out different things. Be in the moment.
