"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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this one is for the more experienced dj, and the whole area of patterning.. does anyone have any good ideas??

things like, enthusiasm, confidence, leadership, romance, desire
comunication.. any things like this????:D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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some good examples... if you dont know about patterns then check the bible, intro booklet, under the seduction section close to the bottom...:D
 

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http://www.fastseduction.com/guide/

This site has some great ideas for patterning.

Although, I'd hold off on the patterning until you are very experienced. Using patterning is ALL in the delivery, the timing, and the way you say it. I've tried to use patterning before and it came off as bloody horrible. You really can't just decide to use patterning. You have to know when the right time is there. When the time arrives, jump on it, but deliver correctly. Or else its not going to create the right effect that you desire.
 

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yeah thats true, i think i could give it a go tho,

ime gona seduce my boss... il post some feed back, let you know if ive still got my job.. for real man!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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