"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Patience and Persistence Go Hand in Hand

BeyondCharm

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This is a very simple tip:

Be persistent in going for it is what you want, calling when you want to call, setting up dates and going the places you want to go. Enjoy being the prize.

Be patient by having a life filled with activities and events, being able to allow tension to build, not worrying if a call goes unreturned or things don't go exactly as you'd expected.

Remember: You will learn from every interaction, and only be stretching YOUR comfort zone and taking risks and chances will the real progress and learning take place. It is in my most risky and courageous statements and actions that some of my most notable experiences and lessons were learned. Don't be afraid to try something new, different and extraordinary, DJ's are afterall extraordinary people.

Enjoy your day and remember that no matter what reaction you get from a woman from an action you take, you are communicating and continually arousing her interests as long as you are persistent and patient. Have fun.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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