Passive Acceptance of the Frame

[Sinn]

Frame control is something that a lot of people talk about, but I noticed that a lot of people have missed out on some basic points of frame control outside of basic reframing.

So I wanted to write about an often untalked about aspect of frame control, and that is; acceptance of the frame. Frames are simply the underlying meaning of a given interaction. If a girl asks me if this is a pickup line, she has set the underlying meaning to be that I am trying to pick her up. If I respond to that in any way I am accepting the idea that I may be trying to pick her up.

It works the other way too. In fact I would say that one of the major un-spoken reasons that negs, ****y and funny, teasing girls, works is because they set the implied frame that YOU are cooler than the girl. So long as she does not argue, the frame has now been set and any interaction that occurs between you guys happens inside of that frame.

The same thing can happen if she laughs and giggles when you accuse her of hitting on you. Or if you start getting sexual and she does not resist.

You don't need her to be agreeing with any of the frames, you are setting, you just need her to not disagree.

S

 

[DJVladdy]

Good point, but this has to be further explained for others... And I would say not ACCEPTING the frame, but CREATING or DIRECTING the frame of interaction or action according to your benefits. Do not just "accept" a frame, becaume that way ur likely to play to another person's tune so to speak

 

[Bonez]

What happens if you sarcastically accept her frame and she doesn't get it.

 

[fedagent]

It works the other way too. In fact I would say that one of the major un-spoken reasons that negs, ****y and funny, teasing girls, works is because they set the implied frame that YOU are cooler than the girl. So long as she does not argue, the frame has now been set and any interaction that occurs between you guys happens inside of that frame.

And what if she does argue? Even when I control the frame this one woman fights everything I say.....I don't have a problem with pu action, but some are just tough.

 

[lyamdb]

This guy is here for money. He'll work to get PMs you'll see. maybe he's jilax.