"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Passion

hb

Master Don Juan
Joined
Sep 2, 2000
Messages
768
Reaction score
0
Location
California
Ive lost my passion for life.. I feel beatin broken and defeated, my parents dont understand me, my dad doesnt understand me, I have no real relationships unless its me calling up friends to ***** about my problems, I dont like hanging out anymore, whenever I do, I do not have the ability to mix and mingle well.. Life has gotten so serious, I dont even know how to have fun anymore. I graduated college recently, I havent found a job, I stopped working, Im unmotivated, Ive lost my girlfriend cause of my stupidity and lack of balls to man up to situations and take control. I do not know how to earn the respect of my peers, I cant watch an entire movie and pay attention. I cant get through a book, I dont pick up any ones phone calls anymore, I lost my lust for life. And the list goes on and on and on.. & no1 wants to hear this, Ive had experience, Ive had a few relationships, Ive had sex with a good amount of girls, Ive gained weight (which I just dropped 30 lbs of).. I feel like I dont fit in anywhere, and rather than try, I fold.. Alcohol is the only thing that makes me feel good temporarily and them im back to the same old bs. I dont know where ive gone wrong.. I never expected life to be what it is right now.. I always saw myself on top of the world.. And now im just lost and confused.. Without the passion to do ****. Sorry for this ****ty post if the mods want to remove it, I get it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Allurre

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 14, 2008
Messages
661
Reaction score
19
You need to slow down and rethink why and what brought you to this point.

Venting it out is a giant step to remedying this.

Your next step, plot out a lifestyle -- mental map -- to how you can counter this stressful living you got yourself into.
 
Top