"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Passing up another chance at a relationship

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About 6 weeks ago I passed up the possibility of a relationship with a girl I fooled around with. She wasn't that bad looking but was really overweight and I wasn't attracted to her at all. Just recently I fooled around with another girl who wants to take things further. She's pretty unattractive but has a great body and is crazy sexually.

I havn't had a girlfriend yet but I wonder if I should take one of these opportunities, just to get the first relationship out of the way because no matter who it's with, it probably won't work out very well because of my inexperience. Or should I hold out and wait for someone I'm attracted to and genuinely like? It seems like an easy answer but being single for so long, even if you do get some action pretty regularly, gets really frustrating and physically/mentally tiring. At least for me.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I think you shouldn't pass on these opportunities. Although I personally can't be with an overweight woman, but a less attractive woman with a nice body I could be with for a while.
 
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Don't settle for less!

There is nothing wrong with fooling around or fvcking women you are not in a relationship with.

Wait til the time comes when you find a girl who has the looks and personality you like.
 
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It's a good idea to get experience with the opposite sex, even if she's ugly. She's still a female and thinks female thoughts. This way you build confidence in human interactions and other girls will notice that you can hang with one of their own. You say you're not attracted to her and this is a chance to practice being assertive i.e. the jerkish behavior women love, when you don't like how things are going in the relationship. I have many stud friends that date ugly girls on the side even when they have a really pretty girlfriends, and I've followed there lead and dated many girls I wasn't attracted to just to practice being suave. It can only benefit you. win win.
 
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Yeah, if I did this I definately wouldn't take it that seriously because I really don't have anything to lose. It's just that a bunch of my friends think she's pretty gross and make fun of me for fooling around with her. So dating her could get annoying. Not to mention any kind of subconscious effects dating an ugly girl could have on my self-esteem and stuff like that.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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