Passed the Biggest Hurdle, Now This

[Love]

I have this overwhelming fear that I won't be "enough" for a woman conversationally. Its stopping me from going up and meeting women, full out. That I won't be funny enough, charming enough, have enough to talk about, or just blank out completely. That I'll be laughed at by everyone around and made a fool out of because I won't know what to say or even say the right things.

I've never actually tried because the fear is just too much.

Please shine some wisdom my way

 

[WC2]

If you're under the impression that all men have good conversation habits then you're quite possibly higher than myself right now.

You're not really going against steep competition here. There are a lot of men who have very little conversational skills out there. With that in mind, approach a woman and just ask her questions. Simple as that. Let her do the talking. Women love to hear themselves talk.

The best way to approach a conversation with a woman is to just drop all your cares. You shouldn't have a care in the world. You're bored and you want to socialize for some entertainment. That should be the only thing going through your mind. Well, possibly what positions she'd look most attractive in. I tend to zone out on that one at times.

If you hold yourself to these ridiculous standards that you have to make a woman wet in her pants at the tip of every last word, then you never will. These things happen naturally as you enjoy the conversation. If you have a sense of humor in the least, I guarantee that you'll find something that she says that you can poke fun at. Trust me. Women say a lot of stupid things. Make her laugh once, and you'd be surprised how far your ego shoots up. Before you know it you'll be getting on a streak of making her giggle every 20 seconds.

But first things first. Drop all your cares. Drop whatever beliefs you have about good conversation in the first place and just talk naturally. Worst case scenario is that she excuses herself and you move onto another chick.

 

[Aragon034]

just start talking, with EVERYBODY. and i do mean everybody. Friends, Aquaintances, peopla at work, people at school, that crazy crackhead screaming that pepsi and coke are the same...

for the first bit, don't let teh conversation stop, keep the conversation flowing, try and avoid awkward subjects with time, you'll get used to talking at a faster pace and be able to keep up and even contribute good things to a conversation.

i used to be like you, but with practice it turns natural. you get to the point where you can see a girl, enact the 3 second rule, and start talking with her as if you're already friends.