"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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That_Guy49

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when in a situation where there is more guys than girls...how do you become the stand out...how do you attract the other girl or girls YOU want, especially when all or most of the guys are around them like puppy dogs dying to be petted?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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do something to stand out, generally if there are more guys then girls, they'll be doing the same thing as you would be, sitting there doing nothing, you just need to make the move.

Or be crazy and outgoing. Whichever.
 

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Be the Alpha male of the group.

Lead the way of fun activities, don't be a follower.

Also, if all your buddies are talking and you see some girls in a group talking on the other side of the room. Bingo! You go over there and work your game. Don't just stand around trying to look cool, cause it never does.
 

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Originally posted by That_Guy49
you should elaborate!
Alright, it would help if you gave some context, because theres a big difference between a 15 person party and an 100 person party where there are 5 chickcs at each...

But just to humor you :p i'll talk about the 15 person party.

I'll tell you a story.

I'm at my friends house, theres about 15 guys there, and about 5-6 chicks. I know one of them good, and she brought 2 friends. One of the friends sits in the middle of the couch, kind of taking up half the end seat. So i squeeze in the end of the seat, when i could easily have been on the other end. This initiated kino, the close contact, also the fact that she didn't move when i sat down told me she was interested. The next step was to continue with the ****y and funny and the kino. Boom, thats all it takes.

I'm not sure of what kind of person you are, but i can assume your like the rest of us. Not terribly outgoing, you can be, but generally you just like to relax and not make a big scene.

Stop me if i'm wrong.

If you want chicks to notice you, you must make a scene. Have you ever seen Billy Madison? You know the scene where he's in his chemistry class, and he says "No i will not make out with you"

Well If you see a chick staring at you, just yell something random, "Stalker! Stalker!" "Quit staring at me!" That should get her attention, then you just move in saying something funny. "Well since your stalking me, perhaps you'd be so kind as to tell me your name" in a ****y and funny attitude. Boom its that easy.

Be creative. Its rather difficult to be seen as obnoxious at a party unless your doing something that will get the police called on your ass. Just be funny with it, and say it with a smile.

Just make sure she gets the joke ;)

Hope that helped. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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NEWBIE101

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Originally posted by Vincent
Alright, it would help if you gave some context, because theres a big difference between a 15 person party and an 100 person party where there are 5 chickcs at each...

But just to humor you :p i'll talk about the 15 person party.

I'll tell you a story.

I'm at my friends house, theres about 15 guys there, and about 5-6 chicks. I know one of them good, and she brought 2 friends. One of the friends sits in the middle of the couch, kind of taking up half the end seat. So i squeeze in the end of the seat, when i could easily have been on the other end. This initiated kino, the close contact, also the fact that she didn't move when i sat down told me she was interested. The next step was to continue with the ****y and funny and the kino. Boom, thats all it takes.

I'm not sure of what kind of person you are, but i can assume your like the rest of us. Not terribly outgoing, you can be, but generally you just like to relax and not make a big scene.

Stop me if i'm wrong.

If you want chicks to notice you, you must make a scene. Have you ever seen Billy Madison? You know the scene where he's in his chemistry class, and he says "No i will not make out with you"

Well If you see a chick staring at you, just yell something random, "Stalker! Stalker!" "Quit staring at me!" That should get her attention, then you just move in saying something funny. "Well since your stalking me, perhaps you'd be so kind as to tell me your name" in a ****y and funny attitude. Boom its that easy.

Be creative. Its rather difficult to be seen as obnoxious at a party unless your doing something that will get the police called on your ass. Just be funny with it, and say it with a smile.

Just make sure she gets the joke ;)

Hope that helped. If you have any more questions, feel free to ask.
Bump

Nice example.
 

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"Stalker! Stalker!" "Quit staring at me!" That should get her attention, then you just move in saying something funny. "Well since your stalking me, perhaps you'd be so kind as to tell me your name" in a ****y and funny attitude. Boom its that easy.




I've had girls that pseudo stalked me before. Uugghh, it's creepy, because they seem to know about most everything you've done without you being around them.
 

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Originally posted by wootapotky
I've had girls that pseudo stalked me before. Uugghh, it's creepy, because they seem to know about most everything you've done without you being around them.
lol alright
 

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people will think you are weird if you just yeall 'stalker, stalker' just out of the blue (even if a girl is looking at you).

but, whatever rocks your boat dude.
 

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Originally posted by Centy
people will think you are weird if you just yeall 'stalker, stalker' just out of the blue (even if a girl is looking at you).

but, whatever rocks your boat dude.
who cares what people think, its what you think that matters.

Anyway last night i went to a new invite only place and it was awesome, i went in knowing like 3 people and having no tie to anyone and came out with like permanent invites there, girls fawning all over me and loads of new friends.

How did i do this, by simply being confident enough to randomly start speaking to people, both male and female. The males gave me social proof (as did some of the females) enabling me to meet and greet even more people. Hell i started introducing them to other people who went to the same school.

It was awesome.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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