parnoid parents and everyone out in life is a fraud

[joe45]

why are folks so pessmist and cynical about people and also about making new friends. I was phoning a new female friend from work or be it rec room and just talkin to her, and i guess dad picked up and listened-ah new voice
10 minutes later he tells me to be careful about meeting new ppl and making new friends as everyone out there in life is a fraud artist, user and a con.
example -he tells me how lets say one day ur out in the streets-his favourite example(out in the streets) and you had no money -would anyone give you money and shelter-ah no

another example-you hear screams in the park and then u hear gun shots-would you go out and help that stranger individual. -ah no

he tells me that most ppl and yes friends out there in life are just using you for one thing or another.
hey lets say one day you don`t have a job right -would your friend help you out and get you a job-ah no. if your out on the streets(his fav scenario) would anyone take care of you and give you money.

after he asks me who i was talkin to-in a demanding voice- i ask him why does it matter you don`t even now him or even her. he s like because i have to now -there are a lot of bad bad ppl out there in the world just using you.

lol first off i have no money making 2 dollars over minimum wage job and i have no car, but take the bus ,-yea i have money for ppl to fraud me.

hes tellin me to be careful when buying a used car becasue teh buyer might -ah yes fraud me in buying a lemon or a stolen car -well yea thats why you go check the vin number , go to veh registration center and get a veh lean check and history report and lastly get a mechanic to inspeect it. i tell him this and hes like ya , but they can still get away with it-some ppl are very good fraud artist and even if they get caught in society just lets them go. hes tellin me how so many ppl cheat their taxes, the goverment just waste tax payers money on gambling and using it on luxury items for themselves and how ppl in life never ever follow the rules and everyone just cheats , steals, and uses one another for one way or another
nobody is ever ur freind and and even ur freind won`t help u in bad times-no job, low marks, and ...
i tell him yea what can u do, the law is there and its there, you just gotta do what u gotta do to prepare urself from being frauded.
is this a chinese things or is it just my parents being cycnical about everthing

 

[ObieJuan]

Life is dangerous- people are dangerous. Be afraid. Be very afraid. Hide in your closet. Oh wait, might be asbestos insulation, you could get cancer- not safe enough. Might try the basement? At least you're safe from Fallout

That guy must be pretty jaded about life, but the truth is each person is an individual and must be handled as such- yes, people do things that are in their own self-interest...you should be no different. Trust is earned, then given. You should always cover your a$$, that goes without saying...since no one is responsible for your decisions in life except for yourself- so most of the time you should think of the possible consequences of the choices you make so you can weigh your decisions fairly. If trusting someone too much might be detrimental in a given situation then give less trust until a person can prove themselves. It is true that we are all (for the most part) selfish; it's just something you have to accept and do what's best for you.

Her dad is probably bitter and has been through a lot because of his choices through life. If we were to follow in the footsteps of failure we would indeed end up at the same destination.

I wouldn't even listen to a word he says as it seems he's telling you things he wished he'd realized a long time ago. If you were to live by his ideals you'd probably be as miserable as him. Who knows all the reasons people are like this? All that matters is you want to be the opposite of what he has become- by being positive, optimistic and resilient to hardship and stay focused on your goals and dreams you can go as far as you'd like in life.

 

[DJDamage]

You are the by-product of both your parents. Your dad sounds like an AFC to me, always looking for bad stuff to happen and as a result when they do he yells out "I knew it!!!" and therefore he has placed limitations on himself through out his life. He also helped trasmit such fears to you which explains your own pessimstic view of the world and faliure with women.

I do have a chinese friend who told me that many chinese guys are completley pussified through out their lives due to strict upbringing. It could be the same case for you.

I would suggest to make your own conclusions about things especially when you know you are right. You have already a better mindset then your father.

 

[everywomanshero]

This is very bad thinking. Everyone is bad guy and want to hurt you. Then he will next teach you to not trust any girl because maybe she is bad person. SO you go into the world and do not trust any women. Where will that get you?

There is a song like this and its true, go into the world with arms wide open. Embrace the world and all its pleasures. The glass is half-full, when people are mean to you it's only because they are insecure and trying to be accepted.

That is the path.