"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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parents say go into trades -i say work

joe45

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ok some background on me

24 yr asian chinese old guy been going to school all my life since HS, first i went to HS upgrading to see if i could get in a college instuite that had higher grade expectations, finally i couldn;t make those expectations and like 2 yrs later signed up for a program at another college for computer tech 1 yr program, finish it -took some time as i had to repeat some courses but yes i graduated from it.
now i am almost finishing a 2 yr program at another college for business management, just need like 3-4 more courses and i am done.

ok heres the problem after my 2 yr business program , my folks for a reason want me to get into the trades-esp plumbing or refregration-since at the moment there is a big shortage in trade workers and they are making like 30-45/hr . there is jobs in it as thats what the news in the media say. my folks main focus of me doing the job is $$$ i believe thats all they say. dad is pretty much fixing plumbing in the kitchen and laudry-reading books from the library and askin me to help him with the light and teaching me-getting me interested.

i need suggestions- i been going to school all my life hardly ever worked or at all longest job i had was for 1 mnth. i don;t want to go into another career as a trade i already have 2-business and computers, i been going to school all my life. how do u tell ur folks this -they are controlling ppl, but want the best for u. i want to pursue a career with what i already have and not start a new one. if at all its just going be a waste of money and time for both parties-folks and me.but at the same time my folks don't want me to do mimum wage jobs-they think joe-ur 24 and not 18 u shouldn't be doing theese mcdonalds, ....minimum dead end jobs.
i really need help as to what to say to em. i just want a customer service rep job in a company and move my way up to management.
i turn 25 in dec-no more school for me- or career change.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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iCY

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well first thing you gotta make sure is that you can support yourself. if you do decide to take up the trades, you can still pursue your career later on in life when you can better handle it.

just my $.02, but then again, im not really old enough to be giving advice on jobs/life lol. this is just what i would do.
life comes first, even if that means making sacrifices to support yourself
 

coldcoal

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The refrigeration trade has a lot to offer someone with a degree in computer science. A friend of mine is an HVAC mechanic and went to college for Computer science to break into controls automation. Essentially it is a career that combines trade and college, has much better job security than your standard computer programmer AND pays very well.

Something to consider.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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diplomatic_lies

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If you're Chinese you should only work in the finance or accounting industry, otherwise your parents will disown you.

Actually just do what you love. Your parents will stop hating you when you become successful (and hopefully rich) at whatever field you choose.

Or alternatively speak to a career counsellor.

If you find that useless, talk to people in the industry. Both veterans and greenhorns.
 
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