styles07
Don Juan
Ever just get sick of the whole game?...conceit, lies, manipulation, opportunism...there's so much trash out there.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
paradox
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Metro3pilot
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jophil28
Master Don Juan
Perhaps the whole 'male female relationship deal " is really just mutual predation, or at the least, mutual exploitation ?
styles07
Don Juan
that's the thing...
I'm a life lover so I didn't mean to spread negativity...just philosophizing..haha..so to speak. So to pick b/w the two choices...recreation's covered I'd say...I'm a busy grad student, surf/skate, into fitness and all the fun stuff...yeah I guess it's the game. I currently don't have many guy friends due to lack of time so when I do go out, for example, it's still alone...success is possible but you better be in the right mood...I try to squash complacency like a bug and readjust my outlook.
I'm a life lover so I didn't mean to spread negativity...just philosophizing..haha..so to speak. So to pick b/w the two choices...recreation's covered I'd say...I'm a busy grad student, surf/skate, into fitness and all the fun stuff...yeah I guess it's the game. I currently don't have many guy friends due to lack of time so when I do go out, for example, it's still alone...success is possible but you better be in the right mood...I try to squash complacency like a bug and readjust my outlook.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
Don't wish it were easier, wish you were better.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.