papertowel
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The absolute most important thing, (obviously brought up before but must
be repeated) is that you can't live your life longing for a woman.
A few years ago, I could think of nothing else but getting a girlfriend. Now, I don't want a girlfriend at all, but am very happy with my life, and how girls respond to me. It's in my side of the court. Now I can call the shots. What prompted the change? it's a mindset.
Now when I look at girls, I dont' think "Man, i want to have sex with her" or "I wish I had a girlfriend like that!" instead, what I think is, "Wow. she's cute." And that's it. I may go over and talk to
her, if I think she's worth it. I might not.
My analogy, and it's a little different, is: Beautiful girls, are, to me, like the "temporary Internet files" that you can clear off your computer. They occupy a space in my mind that I hold in reserve, and that I clear out. They are not with me 24/7. Because they are not my life, nor the focus
of my life. If they're lucky, they can hang with me. If they're not lucky, well, life's not always fair.
Girls are additional the whip cream on my life. Really good whip cream, sure, but you can have ice cream without it. Same thing.
It's the paradox of the ages. When you least expect something, it comes. Don't long or lust for women. That will make you more attractive to them, and they will react. But the idea is not to be a hypocrite, and act as though you don't want women, only for the purpose of getting them. The idea is to truly NOT WANT THEM. Be honest with yourself, and respect yourself. It may seem impossible, but it will come.
I used to be very shy and the Ultimate Nice Guy, and a hopeless "Emotional tampoon" That old behavior is sometimes hard to put down, and will jump up and bite me every so often. I am still working on it, to perfect my balance. it's a constant adjustment.
One thing I did do was buy better clothes, lift weights, and from spending a lot of time at the beach, got a tan. The beach, by the way is one of the best places to meet chicks and try your stuff. But just remember that you are at the beach to have fun, not oogle at every girl's bikini.
be repeated) is that you can't live your life longing for a woman.
A few years ago, I could think of nothing else but getting a girlfriend. Now, I don't want a girlfriend at all, but am very happy with my life, and how girls respond to me. It's in my side of the court. Now I can call the shots. What prompted the change? it's a mindset.
Now when I look at girls, I dont' think "Man, i want to have sex with her" or "I wish I had a girlfriend like that!" instead, what I think is, "Wow. she's cute." And that's it. I may go over and talk to
her, if I think she's worth it. I might not.
My analogy, and it's a little different, is: Beautiful girls, are, to me, like the "temporary Internet files" that you can clear off your computer. They occupy a space in my mind that I hold in reserve, and that I clear out. They are not with me 24/7. Because they are not my life, nor the focus
of my life. If they're lucky, they can hang with me. If they're not lucky, well, life's not always fair.
Girls are additional the whip cream on my life. Really good whip cream, sure, but you can have ice cream without it. Same thing.
It's the paradox of the ages. When you least expect something, it comes. Don't long or lust for women. That will make you more attractive to them, and they will react. But the idea is not to be a hypocrite, and act as though you don't want women, only for the purpose of getting them. The idea is to truly NOT WANT THEM. Be honest with yourself, and respect yourself. It may seem impossible, but it will come.
I used to be very shy and the Ultimate Nice Guy, and a hopeless "Emotional tampoon" That old behavior is sometimes hard to put down, and will jump up and bite me every so often. I am still working on it, to perfect my balance. it's a constant adjustment.
One thing I did do was buy better clothes, lift weights, and from spending a lot of time at the beach, got a tan. The beach, by the way is one of the best places to meet chicks and try your stuff. But just remember that you are at the beach to have fun, not oogle at every girl's bikini.