Pacing myself - how to ltr without exclusivity

[Uncharted]

I've hit a crossroads with one of my plates. We've been on 5 "dates" and fvcked on four of them.

Here's my question... Do I need to pace myself with the dates going forward? How do I know if I'm seeing her too much? It sounds like I'm getting oneitis but I'm more or less waiting for her to call or text and then making plans at this point.

I'm thinking I can continue with my current strategy of only making plans when she calls and not always being available.

 

[fuko2007]

you want an ltr without having to be exclusive? take mine. "DONT DO IT" . I had a plate a while back "the one im still with" and she would call me whenever she wanted to fvck. Slowly she started to want more but i didnt give in untill she found my weak spot. So i did give in. Well now that its been going on like a relationship but not exclusive and not out "fvcking" anyone else as far as i know of thats all she wants.
Sex is few and far inbetween she wants you to treat her like your in a relationship or dateing but not call it that and remember shes still single etc. Then you get the case of oneitis and want a relationship and she flakes out on you and breaks your heart. Dealing with women like that not a good idea unless you do what im about to do. Next time she says this is why im single im going to say" Well if your single , then im going to go out with this girl tonight that im intrested in". and she will freak out and blow up but it will force her to make a decision.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I'd keep doing the exact same thing until she tells you she wants to go official. Remember she must be the first one to say she wants a relationship and even then you have to make sure she is really serious about it. You are already hitting it so there is no stress on your side. Just keep playing it cool, and wait for her to stress it, and even then make her earn it.