Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
Hey Mature SS Posters,
This is a bit difficult to post but I'd like some feedback--positive comments/advice only please.
I was in a 9-year relationship that ended about 2 years ago. Have been dating for about the last year and a half. I never had a problem with PA (performance anxiety) with 9 year ex, but we did wait almost 6 weeks before we had sex. No problem getting wood at any time with her after for 9 years. Historically, on occasion (thinking back to college days mainly) PA cropped up with maybe 10-20% of new partners for whatever reason. Once I saw them a few times or started dating them, it cleared up. So yes, in my 20's I did have a few isolated bouts with PA.
Fast forward to now.
PA seems to hit the first 2-3 times I try to have sex with any new partner. It's not a physical problem. I can go from zero to bullet proof in about 60 seconds if watching porn or no porn at all though it might take a minute or two longer without. Since I've been single, I have been using a lot more porn and I sense that may be a contributing factor (have read about porn induced ED) but not the only one. There was a girl in the summer I was seeing, a HB8+. The first few times we were intimate, I could maybe muster 50% "readiness." Then, maybe the 3rd or 4th time, no problem, then the 5th time banged her for 20+ minutes, 95% wood, and could have gone longer.
It's embarrassing though the first few times with the new partners. There have been maybe 4-5. I'm not sure where the PA is coming from; too much porn, the chicks are too hot (all have been HB8s at least), too young (most are more than 10 years my junior as I can pull them easily) and it's psyching me out, or something else. I haven't tried Viagra or Cialis yet though I do have some low-dose Viagra pills my doc gave me. Reason being, there can be side effects one of which is sudden hearing loss (very rare occurrence) and I have do have an ear issue so I'm a bit paranoid to take the meds.
There's a lot of info on the web regarding PA talking about relaxing, etc, etc., but easier said than done. I am very driven, passionate about most pursuits and have admittedly a big ego and can be compulsive in pursuits so I think this may contribute too. Kind of like your biggest asset also being your biggest weakness.
It's frustrating as all h*ell when you know nothing is physically wrong with you. As a matter of fact, I'm probably in the upper 1% in terms of fitness for all males over 40.
So, any tips, advice, or recommendations are welcome. At this point, I'm open to trying anything but would like to think the meds are a last resort.
Thanks much.
Ciao,
Dash
This is a bit difficult to post but I'd like some feedback--positive comments/advice only please.
I was in a 9-year relationship that ended about 2 years ago. Have been dating for about the last year and a half. I never had a problem with PA (performance anxiety) with 9 year ex, but we did wait almost 6 weeks before we had sex. No problem getting wood at any time with her after for 9 years. Historically, on occasion (thinking back to college days mainly) PA cropped up with maybe 10-20% of new partners for whatever reason. Once I saw them a few times or started dating them, it cleared up. So yes, in my 20's I did have a few isolated bouts with PA.
Fast forward to now.
PA seems to hit the first 2-3 times I try to have sex with any new partner. It's not a physical problem. I can go from zero to bullet proof in about 60 seconds if watching porn or no porn at all though it might take a minute or two longer without. Since I've been single, I have been using a lot more porn and I sense that may be a contributing factor (have read about porn induced ED) but not the only one. There was a girl in the summer I was seeing, a HB8+. The first few times we were intimate, I could maybe muster 50% "readiness." Then, maybe the 3rd or 4th time, no problem, then the 5th time banged her for 20+ minutes, 95% wood, and could have gone longer.
It's embarrassing though the first few times with the new partners. There have been maybe 4-5. I'm not sure where the PA is coming from; too much porn, the chicks are too hot (all have been HB8s at least), too young (most are more than 10 years my junior as I can pull them easily) and it's psyching me out, or something else. I haven't tried Viagra or Cialis yet though I do have some low-dose Viagra pills my doc gave me. Reason being, there can be side effects one of which is sudden hearing loss (very rare occurrence) and I have do have an ear issue so I'm a bit paranoid to take the meds.
There's a lot of info on the web regarding PA talking about relaxing, etc, etc., but easier said than done. I am very driven, passionate about most pursuits and have admittedly a big ego and can be compulsive in pursuits so I think this may contribute too. Kind of like your biggest asset also being your biggest weakness.
It's frustrating as all h*ell when you know nothing is physically wrong with you. As a matter of fact, I'm probably in the upper 1% in terms of fitness for all males over 40.
So, any tips, advice, or recommendations are welcome. At this point, I'm open to trying anything but would like to think the meds are a last resort.
Thanks much.
Ciao,
Dash