Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I go right with "What were you for Halloween last year and What foods do you like to eat? also what states countries have you visited. Keep it on. I've been talking to a few. Write down names (I forget and erase alot of the conversations. I've gotten three numbers so far. Two in Florida as I visit there alot and one in NJ working on a few more. Have pictures of you doing things or with friends smiling. They want to make sure you have teeth and recent pictures. Actually there are some pretty hot ones...You have to really look at the pictures and send some retardedly funny email or mock their profile. Alot respond! So far all good. There are ALOT of big ones on there. Don't write them!JCballin88 said:I made a profile on POF for the heck of it last month in the city where I'll be living this summer, an hour away from my hometown
I actually had 2 girls mail me within an hour of making my profile, but unfortunately neither was attractive.
Since then it's been pretty slow...I've sent a few messages out there and gotten a couple replies. Unfortunately the replies give me hardly anything to work with and the conversation is dead before I can even get started.
I'm thinking about scrapping it pretty soon. The pickings just seem so slim...POF should really be called Plenty-of-Whales in my opinion >_<
Scion said:I actually have a question regarding this whole online thing. I made a profile on POF just as a extra way of meeting women. So far got 4 hot girls a bit interested (multiple messages from each of them, answering messages right away). However, when I went for the number with each of them they only gave me their msn email. Is this common? I've chatted with 2 of them on msn so far, but again when I tried getting the number from one she didn't give it up.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Robert28 said:i got kicked off that site about a year ago(still haven't figured out why?) and everytime i create a profile they delete it within an hour or so.lol
Naughty Ninja said:If you put some of these women in check they'll report you. Or if you keep emailing the same one. they can dish it. But can't take it..
actionjaxson said:my profile kept getting deleted too! i used the same line over and over again so maybe theres a spam filter that bans you or something.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Yeah, I get that they like to chat a bit before giving up the number but it's still annoying. A number is so much easier, can contact her whenever, not just when we both happen to be online. Plus then you don't have to deal with the crap messenger programs (I had a hell of a time adding one girl yesterday, still don't know if it even worked).Naughty Ninja said:They like to chat a bit on that msn or yahoo crap. I keep it light and don't get into the resume B.S. I treat them as friends then after a bit I ask. If they don't I act like I never asked and keep chatting till they give it up. And I usually wait till they send their last reply and read it but don't reply right away on POF to keep it as I ended the chat. No matter how hot they are. then answer in the next day or so and keep emailing other potentials..I just got another # and pics...
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.