Serenity
Moderator
When you discover you are a nice guy (in the negative sense) you might flip your game. You might become aggressive with a "my way or the highway" personality, but deep down you still don't think you're enough. You will just end up digging yourself in the drama that insecure people are painfully unaware of.
The thing that many nice guy miss is that being a nice guy isn't a disadvantage, in many cases this can be THE advantage you have over jerks. All you have to do is to own it, don't let anyone sh!t talk you for being nice. True confidence comes from accepting who you are, both strengths and weaknesses. The hardest thing you can do is to expose all of yourself to the world, this require more balls than anything else. Do it and allow others to judge you, some will not like you and some will love you. Don't care for the haters.
That's not to say you shouldn't learn effective and positive communication skills, like being assertive. Learning about them and learning when and how to use it can make a world of difference in expressing yourself.
Truly confident people are comfortable with exposing their vulnerabilities, they are also willing to learn and take risks. They live in a positive frame of mind and refuse to let the world break their optimism. This is more about what goes on inside your head than what you do on the outside. The most important thing is that you are completely honest with yourself and live with integrity.
You need boundaries for what behavior you will accept, only you can determine that. This does require experience and failure, you have to test the limits. How quickly you can get this hammered down depends on your will to learn.
Now this applies only if you consider a LTR with time, most women as we know are insecure so you won't get much to begin with. If you want quick lays you have to exaggerate your confidence and trick yourself into narcissism, because that's what insecure b!tches like. It can be done, but I recommend not getting caught up by it.
Life is a process, never ever think you know everything. Most are probably not ready to go to this step before they've had a certain amount of experience. This is just my own experience, ultimately it's your choice.
The thing that many nice guy miss is that being a nice guy isn't a disadvantage, in many cases this can be THE advantage you have over jerks. All you have to do is to own it, don't let anyone sh!t talk you for being nice. True confidence comes from accepting who you are, both strengths and weaknesses. The hardest thing you can do is to expose all of yourself to the world, this require more balls than anything else. Do it and allow others to judge you, some will not like you and some will love you. Don't care for the haters.
That's not to say you shouldn't learn effective and positive communication skills, like being assertive. Learning about them and learning when and how to use it can make a world of difference in expressing yourself.
Truly confident people are comfortable with exposing their vulnerabilities, they are also willing to learn and take risks. They live in a positive frame of mind and refuse to let the world break their optimism. This is more about what goes on inside your head than what you do on the outside. The most important thing is that you are completely honest with yourself and live with integrity.
You need boundaries for what behavior you will accept, only you can determine that. This does require experience and failure, you have to test the limits. How quickly you can get this hammered down depends on your will to learn.
Now this applies only if you consider a LTR with time, most women as we know are insecure so you won't get much to begin with. If you want quick lays you have to exaggerate your confidence and trick yourself into narcissism, because that's what insecure b!tches like. It can be done, but I recommend not getting caught up by it.
Life is a process, never ever think you know everything. Most are probably not ready to go to this step before they've had a certain amount of experience. This is just my own experience, ultimately it's your choice.