"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Overweight girl likes me but i like her hot friend.

Tai

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My situation is that i liked this girl when i started my summer class but i was hesitant to ask her out (stupid i know) I made some fluff talk and what not. Giving her mad eye contact when i can. At the moment i thought she might have liked me. She would ask me some personal questions so i thought she was intrested but i ask her why she ask me those questions. She said her overweight friend is intrested. Later on in the day, her friend approuch my and picked me up. I gave overweight girl my # and she was calling me all weekend. She text me just now saying "good night handsome"

The problem is that now i cant go for the hot ones because i know her friend wont breakup their friendship for me(even if she liked me) cant be that much tho since am no super model and she has some other better looking guys after her. Thats another problem, i need to move in fast before the other dudes make their move.

This seems like a loose situation either way. My question is, should i just go for her hot friend and flake on the fat ones and whatever happen happens? or go out with the fat ones anyway even tho i dont really like her to up my DJ game since i most likey have no chance with the hot ones because of the "friend" situation.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Mr. Debonaire

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first things first

if you didn't like fat/overweight girl, giving her your phone number was not a great idea. it gives her the impression that you like her and want to start something. think about it from a DJ's persepective. If you ask a girl for her number and she gives it to you, it means she's interested, right?

I think your main problem was that you weren't quick enough in asking out the hot girl. you should have done the fluff talk, got an email or phone number, called her up a week later, and then macked the pants off her (literally :D )

fortunately, i have been in a situation like this before. what i did (and what i think was the right thing to do) is tell her friend that you just don't feel any "spark" between the two of you. then kick the macking up a notch on the other girl, get her #, whatever.

good luck man, I'm rooting for you
 

Mr. Debonaire

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Originally posted by Tai
i most likey have no chance with the hot one
by the way

I NEVER WANT TO HEAR THOSE WORDS OUT OF YOUR MOUTH AGAIN SOLDIER! :mad:

lol
 

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Do not lower your standards ever. If you are not attracted to an overweight girl, then do not even consider hooking up with her or letting her get to know you. Obviously, by giving her your number, she's gonna call you. And to do what? Talk about sweet nothings to try to gain your interest. Do not waste your time/effort/money on a girl you are not attracted to. There are plenty of girls that you are attracted to and that may possibly be attracted to you that you could waste your money on.

If you like the hot girl, go for her and make your move, if you get rejected, at least you did instead of just seeing her with some other jackass that had the balls to make a move later along the line.
 

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Re: Re: Overweight girl likes me but i like her hot friend.

Originally posted by Mr. Debonaire
by the way

I NEVER WANT TO HEAR THOSE WORDS OUT OF YOUR MOUTH AGAIN SOLDIER! :mad:

lol

Now kiss the ground and give me 20!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Tai

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Mr. Debonaire - tx for the motivation ;)

am taking you guys advice and try to go for her friend but i chicken out when i had the perfect chance to make my move! It is so hard when you feel that she'll reject you but tomorrow am gonna do it!
 

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her friend wont breakup their friendship for me(even if she liked me) cant be that much tho since am no super model and she has some other better looking guys after her. Thats another problem, i need to move in fast before the other dudes make their move.


^ - You need to read the bible. If you did, you would know that if you have the right attitude this won't matter so much. If you have read it already, then you need to read it again.
 
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