"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Overt competition anxiety?

Technics

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Now I know that overtly telling your gf/wife that other girls want you is not a good idea as they should be able to sense it by your covert communications.

However last night I was in bed with my gf and I got a text msg from a guy I play social sport with but not really a friend. My gf's head was resting on me as I opened the msg so she was reading it too.

The message said "hey Technics that hottie (name) that I coach that was down there yesterday just texted me asking for your number, want me to give it to her?"

This guy doesn't know I've got a gf.

Now I know that this wasn't me overtly telling her other girls want me but will her seeing this text work against me or will it create good competition anxiety in her?

If she didn't see this text while I was reading it, I obviously wouldn't have showed her.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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SmooveMooves

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This creates competitive anxiety. You didn't tell her, your buddy did.

She saw that and thought "The man I'm with is desirable, other chicks want him, I better do my best to keep him around"

Curious though, how did you respond with your Gf lurking over your shoulder?
 

Technics

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I simply chuckled and said 'I feel like I'm in high school again" (regarding asking someone for someone else's number) then put my phone away. I thought maybe I should reply "I have a gf" while she was watching but I didn't.

She didn't say anything but I could smell the smoke from her hamster cage spinning so fast lol.

How would you have reacted with her watching?

E.g. If she asked "aren't you going to reply?"
 

Cerwin Vega

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Perfectly executed, brother. You should not care about how she feels, you should only care about her attraction switches.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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