Overreacting?

[jadeona13]

So Yesterday i went on an hour road trip and was home really early..around 2pm. . on the way home my girlfriend texted me and said "what time are you getting home''..i told her i would be home at 2 and she said 'Ohh good. Nice and Early. But im hanging out with my friend'..

i didnt mind, but she began hanging out with her friend at 6:30. I still didnt care but she ended up going to a Fair that was nearby. Not only that but her guy cousin and his fat, ugly friend came. They had fun and stayed at the fair for a good 3-4 hours, knowing i was home bored. I called my gf and she jus said "oh im at the fair. Ill talk to u later''

So later on that night, about 1am...my gf calls me up and was like.."I had such a fun day today. Best day ever!, what did u do?' I told her i was bored and didnt do anything and she just said 'Oh that sucks'..

Then she said she played basketball with young guys( im talking 8-11 year olds) from 10pm-12am.

Now on her facebook and away messages and myspace shes talking about "how much of a fun day she had" ..I dont mind she had fun but why is she like, rubbing it in my face and didnt even bother to call me or tell her cousins to pick me up when they went?

Maybe im just overreacting, but what would u guys think/do?

 

[EFFORT]

how old are you guys?

 

[jadeona13]

im 20 shes 19..we live in a deserted town so the carnvival is the only thing fun to do :crackup:

 

[jadeona13]

anyone?

 

[WesCottII]

Over-reacting? Yes.

Anytime you start worrying that a girl/girlfriend isn't entertaining you. FIND YOUR OWN THING TO DO.

You are a man. You cannot let what YOU do be dictated by a girl, or a girlfriends action.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I wouldn't say you are overreacting. I would say that it is a small red flag. Why would she leave you and not invite you?

 

[MotownMack]

Yes, you're overreacting, IMO. I used to have a similar problem, where I would get jealous, not so much because I wasn't there with her, but that she was able to have a "good time without me". Silly and stupid, I admit, but not totally uncommon. I think sometimes the male ego makes us think we should be the center of the girls universe. It's not a bad thing, really, to want her to be at the height of having fun when she is around you-but when it starts leading to anger and jealously, then it becomes your problem.

Anyway, re-read your post, cuz it sounds like you're less concerned that you weren't invited, and more concerned that she was able to have a great day without you. In which case, you're in the same boat as I was.

All I can tell you is let go. And know that her being able to "not need you" around all the time is a good thing in terms of long term potential.

 

[jadeona13]

Yes, you're overreacting, IMO. I used to have a similar problem, where I would get jealous, not so much because I wasn't there with her, but that she was able to have a "good time without me". Silly and stupid, I admit, but not totally uncommon. I think sometimes the male ego makes us think we should be the center of the girls universe. It's not a bad thing, really, to want her to be at the height of having fun when she is around you-but when it starts leading to anger and jealously, then it becomes your problem.

Anyway, re-read your post, cuz it sounds like you're less concerned that you weren't invited, and more concerned that she was able to have a great day without you. In which case, you're in the same boat as I was.

All I can tell you is let go. And know that her being able to "not need you" around all the time is a good thing in terms of long term potential.

are right..it was more of a ..'shes having so much fun without me''

ill just let it go like u said

 

[PhatE1vis]

Another suggestion: If she tells you she had a great day and asks what you did, never tell her that you did nothing and were bored. It makes you look like you have nothing going on, lowers your value, and makes your happiness her responsibility. No girl wants that. Make something up next time, or better yet, actually find something fun to do.

 

[DonGorgon]

Its done... this is a strong hint from her that she wants to start having "fun" with other people..... Now you need to play the whole , unavailable game with her and hope she regains interest in you but it is probably too late...

Start getting yourself a group to hang wit along with some shady mysterious females for you to F and her to be jelous of... cause that is what she is =doing to you.