"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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*** Overprotective ***

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lately im way to overprotective of jess (the girl ive been with for almost a year). Shes an awesum down to earth girl who isnt like most girls (slvtty) and isnt into hooking up with tons of guys.

She is the girl who we began as just friends for about 3 years and then just instantly clicked and feel for each other.

But i tend to get overprotective when she hangs out with her guy friends, even though 90% of the time i with her while shes with her guy friends because weve been friends for 3 years and hang out with the same group of friends.

Do any of you guys get overprotective of the girl your with too....and if so, do you do anything to get rid of it and have confidence.

Because i know that we guys tend to always over think...so when i get overprotective of her, i feel that she will turn into a slvtt just like the other girls ive been with. :cuss:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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your mind is making up fantasies about her possibly cheating on you; and from what i can gather, there's no reason for you to feel insecure.

The problem is that our minds can't really discern what we know to be true from what we make up in our heads so the more you start to think about her messing around, the more you think it's actually true. It's a self destructive cycle and you gotta make a concious effort to get away from thinking this way.

Now, if she gave you some serious reasons for thinking she's cheating... then that would be a different story.

but she is with friends and we all know what guy friends are to girls.... She has no interest in them, trust me.
 
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Charm&Style said:
Shes an awesum down to earth girl who isnt like most girls (slvtty) and isnt into hooking up with tons of guys.

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Do any of you guys get overprotective of the girl your with too....and if so, do you do anything to get rid of it and have confidence.
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You're placing her on a pedestal. For the moment, just imagine other options. But you should quickly *find* those other options to eliminate this scarcity mentality you have ("isn't like most girls"). Multiply your social circles. Flirt/talk a little more with other girls. That should help.
 
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bro i do...and shes aware of it, thats why sometimes i think shes trying to have revenge on me for flirting with other girls.
 
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Relax, laugh at yourself, and realise that either way, whether she cheats or not, you can only take things as they come.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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