Overcoming Emotional Walls

[ladiesman217]

I've been dating this girl for about two months now and things are going well... she is the type of girl I can see myself marring but theres one red flag that has came up and I am unsure of how to handle it.

She isnt very emotionally involved... Her last boyfriend hurt her pretty bad and she doesnt want to fall again only to have the same thing happen. Naturally shes careful and logical about things but that combined with the fact she doesnt want to be hurt again has resulted in "walls." We have no emotional connection because of it.

Whats the best way to handle this situation? I brought this up to her and she said that it was who she was and that I was looking for something that our relationship was not.

 

[jurry]

She's right.

You can see youself marrying her after two months and zero emotional connection?! That should be a big red flag to yourself that you are moving way too fast and thinking way too much about it.

You're 19 man, relax.. Enjoy the abundant amount of vaginas around you. Perhaps as this relationship continues her walls will break down as she becomes more comfortable with you. Or maybe it just isn't that great of a fit for a relationship.

Do not try and force things to fit how you'd like them, it should happen naturally.

 

[SgtSplacker]

If theirs one thing I have learned from my previous relationships it would be that any girl i'm considering has to play ball.

I don't listen to excuses all I pay attention to is her behavior. If she's being cold and distant i'm going to take that as low interest regardless of the reason(s) she gives me and i'll probably be the same way with her.

If theirs one generalization I can make that applies to all women it's the fact that ALL women do not take responsibility for their actions. Across the board women will blame anyone else for anything they don't want to own up to themselves. Period end of story, no exceptions to this rule ever.

Not only that but a woman will know what she is putting you through, she will know it's not fair. And she will judge you based on that. But she will not see it as you being kind to someone that has issues. She will see it as a sign of weakness that you are willing to deal with that crap from her. And all while she is feeding your ego, telling you that you are so awesome for being there for her. Because that gratification she's giving you makes her feel better about herself for at least supposedly appreciating you.

And all that trauma goes right out the window when she finds an alpha that makes that gina tingle...

 

[sylvester the cat]

If someone wanted to marry me after only two months I too would have emotional walls. Huge ones.

 

[Trump]

I've been dating this girl for about two months now and things are going well... she is the type of girl I can see myself marring but theres one red flag that has came up and I am unsure of how to handle it.

She isnt very emotionally involved... Her last boyfriend hurt her pretty bad and she doesnt want to fall again only to have the same thing happen. Naturally shes careful and logical about things but that combined with the fact she doesnt want to be hurt again has resulted in "walls." We have no emotional connection because of it.

Whats the best way to handle this situation? I brought this up to her and she said that it was who she was and that I was looking for something that our relationship was not.

Come on bro, 2 months dating and you are thinking of marrying at 19? Rest of the paragraph is not that credible.

Anyway as was kind of said above, the previous guy had sex with with her as much as he liked and then left to have sex with another girl, now she's taking her anger out on you? When she says "I don't want to be hurt again" means your hands are tied. She's given you a list on how to behave and act around her. Ridiculous.

You say "OK, that's too bad. I really liked you. When you are ready to have a relationship let me know, but I may not be available at that time. In the meantime I may go look for other girls who are ready to have the relationship Im looking for."