"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Overcoming Creative Block

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It's a common problem for artists. You sit down to a blank canvas, wanting to make some art, but no ideas come to mind.

One approach to solve this problem is by always having an idea before you sit down. The best ideas usually come when you're doing something else, like taking a shower or walking.

Another approach, which I discovered for myself, is to take a photo of your food. You could take a photo of other things, but food is the easiest source of random shapes. Pareidolia is finding meaningful patterns from randomness. You can then eat the food, turning pareidolia into a tasty game. Bring the photo into Krita (or whatever is your drawing program of choice) and draw on top of the photo of the shapes that you find most inspiring. Then throw away the photo and continue the drawing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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