Overcome situtation

[Hot? Naa!]

Hi folks,

There is a HB 7 that I've been looking for. She's hot, we went for a first date, the date didn't run so well but we've been talking since then. Yesterday, we exchaned txt messagens until 2 am. Here's the deal, when i talk about us, she ALWAYS answers like ''in your ****in dreams'', ''no i will never dance with you'' and etc. Maybe she's playing all girl games because i feel she has feelings with me.

Here's the deal. I'm thinking get over and go away. But this doesn't sound like i'm a looser? A looser that couldn't get her. I guess if she does this, she wants to test me.

What do you think about this, what's the right time to go away?

 

[Pakwah]

Don't add no more fuel to the fire. Of course she is testing you, she knows she has the power, maybe other guys have given her that. She is trying to see just how much of a puppet on a string you are. If she's not expressing interest back, stop messenging her and move on. Maybe she just likes the attention, and will just keep you around till something 'better' comes along. Get out now before you get more hurt

 

[Charm]

TEXT her this: "Youre amusing to say the least. You get another chance until someone more amusing comes along."

 

[Hot? Naa!]

Don't add no more fuel to the fire. Of course she is testing you, she knows she has the power, maybe other guys have given her that. She is trying to see just how much of a puppet on a string you are. If she's not expressing interest back, stop messenging her and move on. Maybe she just likes the attention, and will just keep you around till something 'better' comes along. Get out now before you get more hurt

Huh. The problem is I'm a good looking guy and she thinks i give this talk to all girls. But she's different, and i can see myself with her.

Once again, if i walk away, i will look like a looser? Because i gave her and said that she will be mine and now i give up? Everytime in univ. we see each other, i would ignore her, what she would think about me, look ''he's not an alpha male'', ''he cant support all my bull****''. Do you know what i mean..

Sometimes, good looking guys have to show directly that they are interested in the BABE, and they don't talk to her like he does to other girls..

:crazy:

 

[rrrrr]

okay i just went through the same thing, and after 3 months, I gave up. How long are you going to do this for? For what? What is this "if I don't get her I'm a looser (should be loser)" crap? To be honest you would look like a loser if you keep giving her attention when she doesn't want you, when she's a HB7 and you're in freakin college with all these opportunities.

Girls love attention and that's what you're giving her.

 

[Hot? Naa!]

okay i just went through the same thing, and after 3 months, I gave up. How long are you going to do this for? For what? What is this "if I don't get her I'm a looser (should be loser)" crap? To be honest you would look like a loser if you keep giving her attention when she doesn't want you, when she's a HB7 and you're in freakin college with all these opportunities.

Girls love attention and that's what you're giving her.

Of course i would like a loser (thanks for fixing it). We are chatting, i said to her (maybe a mistake) that she would be mine and now i give up and move on. I would look like a loser, oh yeah i give up hitting on yourself, you are the prize, i've been looking for you for a while but now its over.

We went to the stand-up comedy show, she was complaining with me, but in the end, she sent me a txt message with these line ''ohhh..do i look like i'm always complaining? thanks for the dating, it was amazing''. But since then...oh always using those lines ''in your fuvking dreams'', ''i will never dance with you''. My male sense says that she's playing with me.

OK, there are more opportunities but i want this girl and i've to do an effort to get her. Maybe using these line, ''oh 1 thing honey, i'm not all your male friends that are hitting on you, if you don't want to dance with me, why do u still talk to me''. Or maybe not, it looks a desesperated man who is worried about your reactions. Maybe when she comes with those lines, i give her ''OK, i have more important things to do''..

okay i just went through the same thing, and after 3 months, I gave up

can you summarize your story a little bit to see if its similar or not..

 

[Desdinova]

There's so much wrong with this situation, I almost don't know where to start.

i feel she has feelings with me.
The problem is I'm a good looking guy and she thinks i give this talk to all girls.

All of this is in your head. You're creating these situations in your head, and you're developing theory about this woman based on what you created in your mind. I'm starting to wonder if this "date" was actually "friends hanging out" because it sounds like this woman is NOT attracted to you at all.

Here's all the 5hit you're doing wrong:

Yesterday, we exchaned txt messagens until 2 am.

1) Communication via text message or email is an ineffective way of building attraction. A woman will respond to body language, facial expressions, and voice tone much more positively than text on a video display

2) Save fluff talk for the date. If you fluff on the phone, email, and text message, you won't have anything to talk about during the date.

Here's the deal. I'm thinking get over and go away. But this doesn't sound like i'm a looser? A looser that couldn't get her.

Who's going to see you as a loser? Most of the guys here won't, because they know your time could be better spent elsewhere. The average guy on the street doesn't give a 5hit about your dating life. Also, this girl doesn't give a damn if you can't attract her, because she's not attracted to you anyway. The only one who views you as a "loser" is yourself.

But she's different, and i can see myself with her.

She's not different. If you date every woman living on the face of this earth and discover that this woman is indeed unique compared to the other billions of women, then you'll have every right to say "she's different". If you haven't even dated a fraction of the women in the world, your statement of "she's different" is worthless.

Sometimes, good looking guys have to show directly that they are interested in the BABE,

You still haven't learned that looks play a small part in attracting a woman. How you make her feel is going to attract her while your looks are just a bonus.

 

[Jay Jay]

A few things to say about this.

1/ Chicks talk ****. Look at how she is acting. 93% of communication is non verbal.

Don't let what girls say get to you and certainly don't take it to heart.

Have you busted a move or just "said" things about being with her? I suggest trusting your feelings and busting a move.

2/ Whats this **** about being a "loser"? A lot of guys here seem to equate not being able to land a (or many) women with being a loser. This attitude makes it clear that you really do give your personal power up to women. Get it out of your head immediately that a particular outcome with women will define if you are a winner or loser.

I don't believe in the concept of "losers." But in my mind what makes a person a champion is how well they treat other people.

You know if you concerntrate on being a great person (instead of if this girl likes you or if people will think you are a loser for not scoring) then any girl who passes you over is the one losing out.

The moment you sever that connection in your brain linking women with your self image your game will go through the roof.

3/ I suggest learning to be arrogantly optimistic. If a chick does something that puts you off just have the mindset that she did that to play games with you.

4/ Stop reacting to her.

This is the key point.

Your are analysing her behaviour to figure out how you should act.

Stop it.

Decide what you want and act accordingly.

As long as you dance to her tune she will keep you dancing. Play your own tune, if she doesn't dance then move on.

Good luck.

JJ

 

[Hot? Naa!]

2/ Whats this **** about being a "loser"?

@ Desdinova : thanks, excellent post!

About the quote. I mean, i would loose the battle. She won it. I said that i would get her and i walk away instead. I think i'm pushing too hard, i've shown to her, i'm interested, if she wants to have something with me, it's up to her and she will make a move.

For example, she has given to me 6 single ringphones in 10 minutes, OK, i will answer them, but when i talk to her, ''who gives a fvck'' ''no i will not dance with you, why do u think i would do'' and **** like that..

 

[MacAvoy]

Stop texting with her till 2 AM, it is AFC. The best bet is to take the power back, do that by ignoring her text. Make her chase you, do that by moving on and seeing other women.

Theres a tonne of threads on texting, heres the most recent one from today http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=114920

 

[Rastaman]

I think she is an attention whor* n are u re feeding her ego by txtin till 2am. At your current pace, i smell LJBF knocking on your door. Try kissing her, if she refuses and she's as hot as u said, then use her as a bargaining chip on campus....

 

[Desdinova]

I mean, i would loose the battle.

There is no battle. It's human interaction which includes mating. The only way you lose is if you give up pursuing women in general.

OK, i will answer them, but when i talk to her, ''who gives a fvck'' ''no i will not dance with you, why do u think i would do'' and **** like that..

There's a simple solution for that - QUIT TALKING TO HER.

 

[rrrrr]

to text a message until 2 am means you like her a lot. women get off on attention, that's what i know. it's like sex to them. this is a hb7 and i'm telling you, you're in college with lots of opportunities, to lose here, would mean you spend these resources on her, when there are so many other women out there that you pass by. you probably have oneitis for her, my suggestion is to just go out and meet other girls while you are in college. if you stop texting her, you lose nothing. there's nothing saying you can't text her, just understand she's not the girl for you. she's just a friend.

basically what i was saying was, she would agree to anything i said early on, then all of a sudden, it was "no you can't do that, no you can't do this, no you can't call me." Still, she was friendly to me. So it was all about attention. She probably gets a little boost on every time she turns you down. Understand? Now the good news is there is nothing special about this girl, go out and meet more. Which my guess is she's your biggest prospect, you need more because this one is going nowhere.

 

[rrrrr]

Of course i would like a loser (thanks for fixing it). We are chatting, i said to her (maybe a mistake) that she would be mine and now i give up and move on. I would look like a loser, oh yeah i give up hitting on yourself, you are the prize, i've been looking for you for a while but now its over.

Just forget you said this. If I tell Pamela Anderson she will be mine, and don't get her, oh fvcking well. Of course, saying "some day you will be mine" is the last thing i would say, but you don't solve problems by compounding the situation. Just text her less and move on.

 

[Last Man Standing]

....oh always using those lines ''in your fuvking dreams'', ''i will never dance with you''..

Have some dignity!!!! Why even respond to this disrespectful hor!!!!!! She is talking to you like a CHUMP - HAVE SOME PRIDE -- SAY "no" TO DISRESPECTFUL BAD attitude HOS!!!!!

 

[Hot? Naa!]

Hi again,

I've discussed this with my sister and she said me one important thing. The babe sunday, as i said, 6 single ringphones, and i answered to all of them. Yesterday, she didn't send me anything and neither i did.

My sister said to me due to my look, if the babe was her, she would think, ''oh he has many girls, he wants to drop me and he went away''. I dont want this to happen...

Any suggestion? She may be thinking ''oh yeah, he was giving me talk **** but he knows im difficult so he decided to move on, what a fucvking loser, i don't want to have anything with him''..