"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Experience = 0 My opener is situational but mostly: Hi, can I make you smile?
Goal = Long conversation. I don't use lines because they're a waste of time. What else do you need to point out?
BrainDamage92
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Ofc start with general questions about work, education, etc. And compliments, a good compliment is an art - if you notice she has big earrings compliment her on that, or that necklace, or the nails - ofc what you really like is her boobs or how feminine and sweet her neck looks but compliment the jewelry or the dress or whateva because women spend countless hours in trying to look their best. Notice the little birthmark on her leg and touch her there while you pointing it out. Touch everything that you complimented, but not rudely. And talk. Talk, talk, talk, women love with their ears. Also most tend to ****test - to the heaviest ****testers I reply more rudely but with a smile on my face - esp if shes younger its easy to be condescending. I also use self irony, but its an instinct with me, its what my mother told me ages ago - before you start joking with other people you must joke with yourself first. I dont even notice those things anymore, I had even forgotten the word ****test. It becomes an instinct.
What I can tell you is you need to be confident. Which means you are handsome, smart and good and your junk is huge and you are good in bed and no mothefuker can convince you otherwise. When I was a kid girls used to like me the same as now - the difference is now I know it When I think about all the ***** I missed at highschool for example I feel ashamed. But dont get too ****y thinking you are god. Us men tend to do that - in reality there are some problems which you cannot solve, some situations that will leave you helpless, some games which you will lose. Women know that, they dont expect gods, its us who have a problem with that. Try to tell girls stories in which you were basically losing, or made a fool of yourself, or something else embarrassing, or that you fear spiders or whateva but ofc laugh it off. It has great effect.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Von
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20$ per girls I don't talk to that he points at......
Oh did I say he picked up my intro line?
It usually was: "tell me the worst way you would reject a man"
Boy did I get rejected... but I saved 20$ and talking / escalating is easy.
Also, remember: Will you feel better doing it and be rejected.... or regret never talking to her
Dingo
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How does it not come from the mind? It's your feeling, it is inside you. Anxiety is a form of fear, what is it about women you fear?
The usual reason is fear of rejection. Even if that's the cause for anxiety it's hardly a rational fear, because there's mostly no danger of any real harm in being rejected. It's just them expressing no interest and that's the end of it. If you knew you would be punched hard in the face or stabbed with a knife if you got rejected then it would certainly be reasonable to have anxiety. But nothing happens, they say no and life continues.
I once had approach anxiety myself, but there was no way I could really defend or rationalize it. There was no real argument to support my fear, women aren't dangerous or deadly to just approach. My mind was fooled by my irrational feelings and it played tricks on me, until I looked critically at it.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
MrWood
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this is not "situational", and if this is what you are saying in light of no situation... it's bad.
you:
"Hi, can I make you smile?"
her:
no
what?
I doubt it
ummm... *turns away
MrWood
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"open a set"... are you fvckin serious?
CMNILS87
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I'm not even looking for numbers. I had a 5 min discussion with a older gal about kayaks at a sports store. Another gal I sarcastically commented on the nice buns she was buying. It's whatever. I play it like Lloyd Christmas from "dumb and dumber".