"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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backbreaker

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I am by no means perfect nor never claim to be. I think my biggest flaw that i have is that I have a tendicy to overanalyze situtations.

not only that, it wouldn't be so bad if that was all, but when you do it, you never come out the victor in your mind. No one, well I haven't ever over though something and ever came to a conclusion that was actually in my favor.

Like today, my GF has been in a funk all day long, I can just tell. so in my head, man what the **** have you done. so i'm really raking my brain trying to figure out what I did... and of course, it's something I did because my mind is never wrong lol and i just wont' leave well enough alone.

So she finally sits next to me and i ask her what's wrong. she says nothing. And by now me and my sick ass has already decided it was not only something wrong, but we have decided that it was somehting I did wrong.

She was just not generally in a good mood. you know how you wake up late sometimes and you ust dont' start the day off right and it just carries on... had nothing whatsoever to do with me.


That's something I need to work on, any advice?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm the same way. Sometimes it is just female hormones, but I can only take so much of a girlfriend's bad mood before I start to take it personally.
 
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