nightwalker75
Don Juan
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Earlier today, I attended an event where I believe I exuded alpha male qualities (given my natural charisma). Quickly, I found myself, as always, at the center of attention. I noticed a striking blonde woman sitting beside me, and naturally, we struck up a conversation. I was genuinely curious about her, as she seemed unusually young and attractive for the event. After about 5 to 10 minutes of conversation, other people approached me, and I became engrossed in their conversations. However, I noticed she kept watching me the whole time, and finally, when everyone left, she returned to initiate a conversation.
In the past, I might have interpreted this as a sign of her attraction towards me. BUT TODAY, I FINALLY REALIZED that she wasn't necessarily interested in me, but rather, I was over-validating her, and she returned seeking that attention. This realization struck me particularly because I later noticed she was wearing an engagement ring.
My question is: How can I be more intentional about my validation towards women, and are there any books you recommend on this topic?
In the past, I might have interpreted this as a sign of her attraction towards me. BUT TODAY, I FINALLY REALIZED that she wasn't necessarily interested in me, but rather, I was over-validating her, and she returned seeking that attention. This realization struck me particularly because I later noticed she was wearing an engagement ring.
My question is: How can I be more intentional about my validation towards women, and are there any books you recommend on this topic?
