"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Over Two Months Have Passed....

Buck Toff

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About two months ago I was at a rock show some friends put on at a bar. I noticed this hottie wandering around, and being clueless about "concious" DJ'ing at the time, (I've done ok in the past being clueless), I didn't approach her.
But at the after party, I somehow ended up having a conversation with her, and we really hit it off, and we have lots in common.
She said things like "wow, you are SO interesting", and other compliments. Also, it turns out she knows a friend of mine.
I actually first asked her for my friend's number, since I had lost it, but she immediately wrote it on her business card, where her phone number and email address are also. Check.
Later I asked my buddy about this chick, and I find out she's shacked up with another guy, so I never bothered contacting her. Since then my life has been turned upside down with deaths in the family, and I moved a couple times etc. so I never really gave her too much thought as I was too busy these past couple of months.
But after I discovered DJ'ing, and have been learning more about it, I realized I did a bunch of things really well that night to score points with this woman.
My questions are this: Are shacked up women off-limits? Was she pulling my chain? Has too much time passed to do anything more? If not, what do I do next?
Thanks in advance. -Buck
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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MichaelangelloB

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Pulling your chain???

I'd say that women give out fake numbers to probably 65% of guys that ask for them, the other 35% of the time they just won't answer when you call or blow you off.

So I'd say her giving up the digits without you even asking for them is a pretty sure sign that she was interested, shacked up or not.
 

WaterTiger

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It's been a couple months, things might have changed in HER life as well. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Give her a call!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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princelydeeds

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A woman, even if she is married, is off limits only when she says shes off limits. Sometimes, if she says shes off limits shes only testing you to see if she can trust you.

If you have her email address, I would try to send her a short but sweet email first. One of those do you remember me notes. If you call her she might not rememeber you. With the email, you give her time to remember you.
 

Buck Toff

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I sent her an email a long time ago already, maybe 5 or six weeks ago, and no response. Haven't seen her either. Too bad....




... FOR HER!! HA! :cool:
 

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Don't deal with emails - that the pvssy way out.

She gave you her business card with her number on it - so call it.
 

Buck Toff

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You didn't want to give me advice, you just wanted to call me a pvssy, right? :eek:
 

Derek Flint

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Originally posted by Buck Toff
I sent her an email a long time ago already, maybe 5 or six weeks ago, and no response. Haven't seen her either. Too bad....




... FOR HER!! HA! :cool:
There's your answer.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bignick79

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She probably doesn't remember who u are. Does she know ur name?? Just call her, i agree, e-mail is kinda wimpy, especially if u have her number.

-Big Nick
 
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