Over thinking

[Jack Wealthy]

I just started with this quote cos its perfect for overthinking (vs going with what you feel like and escalating.)

That's a good one, but thats taking value. What about being the guy that always has gum, and gives to people, and limiting it over time? Which is giving value, but not letting yourself get used.

In reference to asking grls for gum.
How about not being the creepy guy who always has gum for people? Or the weirdo who overthinks starting a convo for gum because they might, on some subconscious and amazingly minute level, see you as being slightly less of a provider. Of gum.
Seriously, if chicks see me as the ******* who doesn't have gum, thats cool. But if they see me as a guy they are willing to give to, thats supa cool.
I start convos about the freakin weather then ask to play paper scissors rock. I get epic excited and wrap their hand in my paper (as long as they go rock like most people). If I want to do something, I do it BECAUSE I am fun and thinking isn't. Going out of your way to be a giver/alpha male is lame. I'm not taking value from them, any more then I'm wasting their time.
I do **** like that in front of all my friends, they don't think "Wow, he's such a weirdo, playing paper scissors rock with randoms." They say that, but they think "**** HE'S TALKING TO MORE GIRLS?"
They actually think I over think this stuff, and come up with weird ideas. One of my friends asked me if I spend all my time just thinking of stupid games to play with chicks.
No. I just do whatever I feel like, because if they stick around then WE'LL do whatever WE feel like. Together.
Get it? If you think about it, you do whatever you THINK about. You do what you feel like, you GET what you feel like.
I don't mean don't think though, I just mean you're probably overthinking, unless you can hear silence in your head every now and again. If your brains pounding to think of what to say, say what you feel like saying,it will feel right and your feelings will give it confidence.
I also don't mean for the hardly try to think to be taken as hardly try. Thats a relationship you'll figure the do's and don'ts of in field. IE Try and escalate (comfortably- actually, this needs a post too), don't try to be funny (funnyness flows- I'll do something on this eventually.)
On topic, you're not alpha unless you do what you feel like. People who do whatever they think other people think they should do aren't alpha, no matter how dominate they're presence, no matter how good their eye contact or no matter how much they AMOG you.

One last thing, no offence to overthinkers here. You probably have great ideas, its just girls value confidence and actions way more then anxiety and concepts. Concepts are to actions what wanking is to sex.
I'm an over thinker myself, but I can 'flow' if I always go with what I feel like. It doesn't change YOU, it just makes people like you better. When you think so much, and choose thoughts over feelings, you end up with anxiety issues. My housemate is to scared to talk to a girl in real life because he thinks hes too short, not committed enough, too horny, not confident enough...

 

[NorwegianDJ]

You make a big point here, I'm glad you made this post. I want to start of by saying that I don't overthink, but maybe my posts can be missleading and lead to other people overthinking and people creating a wrong image about me in their heads.

Overthinking is huge. If you are thinking of what you're doing while you're with a girl, then it will come out as incongruent and out of the flow. This is because you are inside your head. You are doing, not being. You are not acting through your own intentions, you're not present. What you do with chicks should be exactly as you say; WHATEVER THE **** YOU WANT.

Again, I'm glad you made this post, because it filled a hole in the information that is available on this forum.
Also, I write like I think to much; but I don't. As far as I know atleast. At the moment it fully depends on the situation. If I'm home, I might analyze some stuff, as it helps me understand more. I think that overthinking is not bad, as long as you use it in your favour.
You don't want to think of your actions when you are with a girl or before you approach, but thinking and being "philosophical" on a forum, I don't see the problem with that.
There is really no use for you being negative and getting mad, just because you have gotten an image of how people might be like in real life. However, you managed to keep it to the point, and made a good post.

 

[Jack Wealthy]

You make a big point here, I'm glad you made this post. I want to start of by saying that I don't overthink, but maybe my posts can be missleading and lead to other people overthinking and people creating a wrong image about me in their heads.

Again, I'm glad you made this post, because it filled a hole in the information that is available on this forum.
Also, I write like I think to much; but I don't. As far as I know atleast. At the moment it fully depends on the situation. If I'm home, I might analyze some stuff, as it helps me understand more. I think that overthinking is not bad, as long as you use it in your favour.
You don't want to think of your actions when you are with a girl or before you approach, but thinking and being "philosophical" on a forum, I don't see the problem with that.
There is really no use for you being negative and getting mad, just because you have gotten an image of how people might be like in real life. However, you managed to keep it to the point, and made a good post.

I know man, most people have no ability to turn their thoughts off though. I do the same thing, which is why I can post on a forum, but even stuff like this can take control and **** up your chances with girls.
What girls really seem to respond to is (an entirely impossible combination) of passion and apathy. That pisses guys off so much its not funny though. Its evident in everything I say and the way people react to it, it came through it that post because it is who I am. Even though I'm a total optimist.

 

[Myangel]

I think it's good! Thanks a lot!