over-stepped with Decisiveness and Confidence?

[Yachtie]

I thought I was doing the right thing with this girl i've been dating by taking the initiative and making a decision for what we should do. It was her idea in the first place, and she tried to convince me to do it for a week, but then when she started to show some hesitation i said "let's do this" and booked the reservations necessary (to include flights).

Then she said she was annoyed because she felt that she didn't get a choice and that I assumed that that's still what she wanted.

Any thoughts on what this means?

I've been dating her for a few months, we're not officially exclusive, and i'd like a LTR with her going forward.

 

[PokerStar]

so what you are saying is that you felt that it was the "right" decision to book a vacation for the both of you?

Without coming to a common ground on which vacation spot you both would like to go to?

Thats good that you woulld like to take initiative, but buddy...you have only been seeing this girl for a few months, things are still kinda fresh.

Something like a vacation should be planned out, sure you its cool to book something spontaneously but thats after years of dating eachother.

I could be wrong, but thats the way i see it... I think you thought way to far ahead with this one.

 

[Yachtie]

oh no, she was going somewhere for business already and wanted me to come along. she asked me several times and tried to convince me to go but i was playing it cool and not jumping the gun. so i booked only my travel to meet her there.

what i thought was "right" was to make the decision and just do it last minute when she thought i wasn't going to go.

 

[PokerStar]

oh ok.
you didnt mention that in your original post
my bad.

 

[Yachtie]

yeah, i tried to keep the original post short --- i was trying to figure out the change of tone now that she wants a "choice" or whatever

 

[Masculinity]

I thought I was doing the right thing with this girl i've been dating by taking the initiative and making a decision for what we should do. It was her idea in the first place, and she tried to convince me to do it for a week, but then when she started to show some hesitation i said "let's do this" and booked the reservations necessary (to include flights).

Then she said she was annoyed because she felt that she didn't get a choice and that I assumed that that's still what she wanted.

Any thoughts on what this means?

I've been dating her for a few months, we're not officially exclusive, and i'd like a LTR with her going forward.

First of all: Do not be the one who asks to be boyfriend and girlfriend.

If you're the first one to ask, not only do you come off AFC and weak, but

then she'll know she has you by you d*ck. You are a Don Juan; you do not

need to be asking girls to be your girl because you have an abundance of

women after you. If a particular girl gets crazy about and asks you to be in a

relationship with her and and you decide she meets your standards, then

that's another story.


Secondly: I agree in the fact that you should be a leader and make most

decisions and even though she asked you to come, this chick isn't your

girlfriend. Women will always have something that they want to change about

you and that my friend, is the gift of being a DJ. If you were predictable,

boring, and willing to be with her regardless of whether she wiped the down

the floor with you, you would be an AFC and not a challenge. Women like the

idea of a masculine man that they think can "fix." Ever see those girls that

let their boyfriend beat the crap out of them, but they are still together with

them? That is some crazy stuff and you should never hit a woman (except

during sex and with acuity, haha).


Thirdly: Women will never be 100% happy or they would be bored.

Ever see a couple arguing over the most stupid reasons? I'm sure you have.

Guess starts the arguments? YES! the woman. She starts drama to make the

relationship exciting and maybe throw one and two sh!t tests to see if you

stil have your b@lls on right.


Watch these videos from Chris Rock. They are a mine of gold and they will

explain my the idea I'm explaining to you here. I must warn you though,

you're gonna laugh you @ss off, haha:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wNzKN2EeA4s

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0gGD2sM72Z4&feature=related