Over Reacting

[English_Bloke]

Imagine you are in a relationship that has gone for 3 months, everything is smooth except the girl still acts interested around other guys and flirts a little - but you act cool and try not to show your emotions. One evening she decides to go out with an old guy friend from college. She openly speaks bad stuff behind his back but when he appears she runs up to him with smiles and hugs and kisses. You go home alone, too late to make any plans. How do you feel?

This just happened to me. I didnt think it was a big deal until my friends starting asked me "why the hell are you letting her do that!?" and then I really thought about it. She is big into using guys, and her family encourages it. I have made sure I use her more than she can do that to me, and it pays Just I feel like this could crack the relationship if I react too weak or hard.

So tomorrow Im going on a date with her, probably mall+movies+dinner - how should I react, because she thinks this is an ok thing to do with me - and I dont. How do I approach this tomorrow, we can both back out of this relationship, we both got alot of game but what we have now is amazing.

 

[Damian]

Two words: TOO MUCH.

Apparently this girl's strategt is working, because you want to spend the whole goddamn day with her. Loosen it up. It doesn't matter how much time you spend together, but rather, WHAT YOU DO. Go mess around, take a stroll and have a good laugh. If you can't keep her interested, it is a waste of time AND money. "Crack the relationship?" Don't be so doubtful. Remember to keep a strong frame by staying calm and in control. Don't second-guess or worry too much. If you think you have it in the bag, you do.

-Damian

 

[English_Bloke]

Thanks for the advice man, I appreciate it. Thing is that she cancelled tonight, so I went to the same mall with a different girl (not a potential GF but still just a hot friend). Guess what happens next?! I bump into the girl, shopping with her parents. Hah, what does that mean - ditch her or what? Main issue is that im going down to florida with her for spring break, dont want to "OVER REACT" to this as well. Advice please!

 

[Docs]

Thanks for the advice man, I appreciate it. Thing is that she cancelled tonight, so I went to the same mall with a different girl (not a potential GF but still just a hot friend). Guess what happens next?! I bump into the girl, shopping with her parents. Hah, what does that mean - ditch her or what? Main issue is that im going down to florida with her for spring break, dont want to "OVER REACT" to this as well. Advice please!

Oh, priceless! How old are you, this sounds like a 15/16 year old deal?

Alternate plans are awesome, I set up this coffee date with my ex (don't ask ^^,), but I arrived (I forced the time) and she couldn't go out. I antipicated this and went over to buddy's house a block away and started planning for the huge ass party we're having.

 

[English_Bloke]

Wow Docs you're good, its a 16 year old deal. If I had bumped into her alone that would have looked pretty bad, thankfully I dont get oneitus that much and have other girls. You see my issue is that im going on vacation with her, and Im tempted to let this pass, but I also dont want to anger her with my reaction to the extent that the week in florida sucks.

 

[Docs]

I'm a near-master at reading information. The wording and the situation you described was just so fitting of such a age. ^^

As much as you said, I still have the understanding she's your girlfriend. She's a big flirt from what I can tell, and that's normal for wild and free teenage girls (I surely know that one).

Well, we can look at this two ways. She's a flirt and you don't like it, so you stay home from a entire week in Florida, or you can go with her to Florida and work on the relationship at hand. I'd take the Florida trip, seeing how I know you wouldn't dump her for her flirty nature, and if she does it again, well you're only in one of the finest spots of the US for eye candy!

So, go with the flow and don't let it finch you. Make Florida super sexy for her and it'll be a time to remember, and if she's being naughty, you have a entire week to practice your skills!

Cheers!

 

[English_Bloke]

Thanks Docs, you got it nailed good. Ill admit my AFC side was trying to get through by b1tching at her and maybe dumping out but I realise Florida is a perfect spot to work with this - just as you said.

I still have 4 or 5 days until I get out there, so I think the best thing to do is not bring up what happened last night...why ruin a week over one evening...and its not like her parents were another guy taking her out.

 

[Docs]

Exactly!

Go enjoy your trip now, tell me how it went (pm)