"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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i have an abysmal habit of over analyzing absolutely every situation with a girl, meetings, bumping into each other, phone calls, even msn conversations

its getting ridiculous, ive read a few thigns about stopping, but I'm really in need of some pointes or links to great posts/articles about it

hope all you great dj's can give me a hand here :D
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do you have any hobbies or something to do to keep your mind off it?
If you don't you should get some. Just something to stop thinking about that kind of stuff. It works for me.
 
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A great way to stop yourself analysing everything is to repeat a sort of "mantra"

This has the effects fo answering those internal questions you always have.

My mantra is :

"She loves me. She Loves me. She loves me..."

works great!:D
 
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Those new to a concept will usually sit there and try to gain the most knowledge before acting. I believe that is what you are doing.

It will help much to realise that the girl is most probably doing the same thing you are.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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so she loves me and i should act like she does

because im the prize

edit: yes, thats right :D
 
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noce. once you get more experienced you will have no trouble.
 
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I don't care what anyone else says but I had your same problem and here's how i fixed it.

ALWAYS BE DOING SOMETHING. AND THAT DOESN'T INCLUDE HANGING AROUND ON SOSUAVE. (you can do it some)


Hobbies, TV, Video games, sleeping, anything except self-mourning okay?

And TV And video games arn't exactly good. But it's better than nothing.

If you don't have any hobbies go get a dvd series of a show. Like 24 or Buffy the Vampire Slayer or The Sopranos. All of what i recommend :)
 
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Originally posted by Void
I don't care what anyone else says but I had your same problem and here's how i fixed it.

ALWAYS BE DOING SOMETHING. AND THAT DOESN'T INCLUDE HANGING AROUND ON SOSUAVE. (you can do it some)


Hobbies, TV, Video games, sleeping, anything except self-mourning okay?

And TV And video games arn't exactly good. But it's better than nothing.

If you don't have any hobbies go get a dvd series of a show. Like 24 or Buffy the Vampire Slayer or The Sopranos. All of what i recommend :)
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take up guitar or something. my tips is always have something more important than girls. not just one girls, but girls in general. be more infatuated with music, with parties (just watch it), with art, with sports, with whatever you dig.

i always let it be known that girls come a distant second to my songwriting.
 
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Originally posted by dannowillbookem
take up guitar or something. my tips is always have something more important than girls. not just one girls, but girls in general. be more infatuated with music, with parties (just watch it), with art, with sports, with whatever you dig.

i always let it be known that girls come a distant second to my songwriting.
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Haha, I was just giving an alternative. I also play guitar and I had a gig on friday. Yeah music rocks, it 's my life bro. And i also write songs and do poetry and floetry. Floetry's like rap and poetry combined. dude you got AIM?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Looking through this old post has made me think of a question, is over-analyzing really a problem? I mean is wanting to know the answer to a question, the meaning behind an action, such a bad thing?

I know that the obvious answer is it is wrong if it effects how you act, if it makes you delay approaching someone, or makes you blind to such obvious signs of interest, etc. But there must be times where knowing is better than not knowing... or attempting to understand is a good choice.
 
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I view over-analyzing as more of a problem with being to self-concious along with being insecure. A good DJ is neither of these. The good DJ knows that there are other girls out there, and if he really has to over-analyze a situation he is already doing to much work. I am not saying don't analyze period, but over-analyzing can be a bad thing.
 
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A simple thing to tell yourself when you're over analyzing is that its pointless. The more you think about it, the less natural you'll be. If you're constantly thinking
"Oh, she smiled, is she happy or does she like me. Maybe it was a forced smile. Oh what if she doesn't like me and is just being nice. What if she DOES like me but is trying to pretend like she doesn't and pretends to fake a smile when really shes in love with me and just hiding it so that I don't know and she doesn't seem desperate???!?"

That will drive you crazy. That is pointless. THAT is bad.

With confidence, comes the reduction of the whole over analyzing thing. The less you care, the less you analyze, the better the results.
 
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