over-analyzation of what is "alpha"

[usernamedox11]

I see a lot of guys here going on about what is alpha and how the proper alpha replies to crap. I've gotten in a debate with a senior member here talking about how it wasn't alpha that he let some girl announce that she was flirting with another guy. If he acted alpha, she would've never found the opportunity to tell him another guy was flirting with her. Stuff like this boggles my mind. You SHOULD know if a girl is flirting with another guy so that you can figure out whether she is LTR material/worth your time/whatever.

Anyway, back to what I was gonna say. I've thought about this. Being alpha is a mindset. It's about taking your life where you want to take it. It's about doing what YOU WANT TO DO with your life. It doesn't mean you're this ultra slick guy who always knows the exact perfect thing to say to a woman. Quite frankly, who CARES whether or not some girl is sh1t testing you. And who cares if you didn't say the exact perfect thing to her. It doesn't matter as long as she has ZERO power over you and your life. If she's doing something that goes against what you imagine for your life and where you want to take your life, fvck her. Do not bother. Do not give a damn. Next her. Ghost her. Downgrade her to a utility object only to be used for your own pleasure when you feel like it.

Don't start blaming yourself for your girl cheating on you or something because you weren't "alpha" enough. Quite frankly, a girl who cheats or plays constant mind games with you isn't worth your time and you should be glad she revealed her true nature to you. As long as you know you acted like a true man with that woman and your true ambitions and goals always had more importance than her, you are doing just fine. Just do what you want to do with your life to be as successful as possible, know about the hypergamous nature of women, and everything else will come.

 

[zekko]

Anyway, back to what I was gonna say. I've thought about this. Being alpha is a mindset.

I know this site teaches that alpha is a mindset sometimes, but I've never agreed with it. Alpha is a position. The alpha is the top male, the #1 guy. That's why women want him. Because he is the #1 guy and they know they will be envied by other women for having him. Not because he is on some inner quest to become a competent janitor or whatever makes him tick.

PUAs try to mimic the behaviors of these top guys, and that's where they come up with this "alpha mindset" business. Problem is, over time they have ascribed so many different attributes to this mythical "alpha male" creature that it has become basically meaningless. Most of these alpha attributes they talk about on these forums are what we used to simply call being a man when I was growing up.

 

[SgtSplacker]

I would not give a girl capable of cheating or flirting behind my back any importance or commitment. If you can't tell what type of girl she is then that is your first alpha male hurdle you need to cross.

Women usually can't help themselves but talk too much. She will let you know what type of girl she is by what she says you just have to listen.

Your HO will talk about guys alot or bars.

Is she broke and going out alot? She's a HO.

Does she like expensive things, but no job? She's a HO.

Does she talk mostly about school, exercise, sport, nature or family? Might have a winner here.

Does she love to fark and talk about sex alot? She's a HO.

Is she a bartender? Prolly a HO.

Does she have any noble hobbies? Maybe a winner here.

Does she have a career or the intention? Might have a winner here.

Just keep your eyes open, this is not that hard.

 

[TheException]

Being alpha is a mindset. It's about taking your life where you want to take it.

It is.

Don't start blaming yourself for your girl cheating on you or something because you weren't "alpha" enough. Quite frankly, a girl who cheats or plays constant mind games with you isn't worth your time and you should be glad she revealed her true nature to you. As long as you know you acted like a true man with that woman and your true ambitions and goals always had more importance than her, you are doing just fine.

I agree with the general premise here that cheating women are mainly of low quality. That being said....I think its detrimental to throw everything a guy does under the rug and tell him "its not his fault". To me, its no different from the guys who say "game is manipulative, I just want a woman to like me for who I am.". Well guess what? Usually the people that make these statements are the generic boring "nice guy" chump.....and women dont find that attractive.

I highlighted above in your quote what is the key. Women who cheat because they cant help it are wh0res and there are plenty of high quality women in the world to never deal with them. Wh0res should live a lonely existence until their dying breath used only as a vag1na for a dry spell. They deserve 0 commitment and provisions. BUT women who cheat because they grow unhappy in a relationship is an all too common theme nowadays. A good amount of break ups occur when attraction dwindles(and lets be honest mainly due to the pu$$ified man acting like a woman) and she starts to find herself no longer attracted. Instead of dumping you....she will hold on until another guy comes along and gives her a reason to leave.

So these are definitely two scenarios....one we can control.

1.) Women cheat because they are low quality wh0res

2.) Women cheat(and then break up with you) because of low attraction levels.

Just remember that "game" is ever vigilant. Just because you have a girlfriend does not mean you can now relax and tell yourself "game over". Her nature is to always be with the most attractive guy that she can attain.

 

[TheException]

I know this site teaches that alpha is a mindset sometimes, but I've never agreed with it. Alpha is a position. The alpha is the top male, the #1 guy. That's why women want him. Because he is the #1 guy and they know they will be envied by other women for having him. Not because he is on some inner quest to become a competent janitor or whatever makes him tick.

True. In its purest form the alpha male is the "pack leader". The #1 male. The CEO. The President.

Now, the reason behind having the "mindset of an alpha" is because although you cannot mimic position....you can mimic their actions and reasoning. For instance I think its clear that alphas have similar traits.
-Confidence
-Big, but not fragile egos
-Charm
-Wit
-etc

Women happen to find these traits attractive so although you may not be the CEO of a company, but if you can act like one.......wellll thats better than not acting like one and instead acting like the average dude who works a 9-5 office job.

 

[:-)]

That Barack Obama is 'pack leader' and CEO of the United States of America isn't saying much for Alphaness.

 

[TheException]

That Barack Obama is 'pack leader' and CEO of the United States of America isn't saying much for Alphaness.

lol....I think it says more about the people that made him "pack leader". Ive said we are going to be embarrassed as a nation 30 years from now when we look back and say "how the heck did that guy get elected, NOT once but twice".

#obamaworsethancarter
#moredebtthanalltheotherpresidentscombined

 

[SgtSplacker]

Barack Obama displays many non-alpha characteristics. I mean a presidents every move is analyzed by people so the guy is under scrutiny. There are a bunch of (rules?) a president must abide by to meet other world leaders and not come off like a chump. Pretty interesting reading if you google it a bit.

 

[usernamedox11]

I know this site teaches that alpha is a mindset sometimes, but I've never agreed with it. Alpha is a position. The alpha is the top male, the #1 guy. That's why women want him. Because he is the #1 guy and they know they will be envied by other women for having him. Not because he is on some inner quest to become a competent janitor or whatever makes him tick.

PUAs try to mimic the behaviors of these top guys, and that's where they come up with this "alpha mindset" business. Problem is, over time they have ascribed so many different attributes to this mythical "alpha male" creature that it has become basically meaningless. Most of these alpha attributes they talk about on these forums are what we used to simply call being a man when I was growing up.

A lot of those #1 Alpha males worked very hard for what they have. And this is what I mean. Your goals that you wish to accomplish for your life should be your top priority. If you are to accomplish them, you may just become that #1 guy...