Over 40, has kids and wants more?

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

ThisNThat

Banned

Apr 1, 2017

There's this one woman on POF, age 42, has kids and wants more of them. You know...her chances of finding a man over 40 that ALSO wants kids it's going to happen, right? Most usually have already HAD kids (from a previous marriage)

So why continue to pop 'em out after 40, since you've been down that road already.

Must be a woman thing (female mid-life crisis?), because I don't know of many 40-something men that would go along with her. In fact, some men around her age probably got the big "V" if ya know what I mean.

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.