"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Outcome Dependent

iFEEL

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Not Being Outcome Dependent

We are in general more outcome dependent. We always search for something that will bring us what we want as fast as possible. There's a cliche for this known as the "magic-bullet".

But the thing with all these outcomes is that it all comes down to one thing we always experience.

Every time when we crave so much for getting something as fast as possible we then totally forget about it.

As soon as we get it we are the **** of the world. But after a while the feelings fades away.

So it doesn't really matter if we get what we want since we don't truly appreciate it when we get it.

What's more beautiful of succeeding is the path we're taking towards or destination. That's why, the true process, the path, has so much more value than the whole outcome.

In the process we have the ability to be competitive, to be mean, to be playful, to take it seriously or to take it playfully ...

Out of all possibilities we always seem to chose the one that brings nothings. And that is "searching for a way to get it as fast as possible". And when we don't achieve it we beating ourselves down and being depressed and frustrated.

The way I understand outcome attached life I can only see the EGO suffering and succeeding and then suffering even more.

I'm not an expert in psychology and the EGO ****. But I know one thing.

When you're a successful boxer your ego grows. It's always having this thought in it's little ****ed up head: "I'm the best because I beat everybody". The EGO would be great if it didn't have all the things that MUST occur to think positively.

So for me the EGO is just an optimistic and positive thought followed with a term that must be met in order for the optimistic thought to work.

And when it happens that you loose once. The term doesn't met and your ego collapses and you easily become frustrated, angry and disappointed.

When we let go of the egoistical outcome thinking our positive and motivating beliefs about ourself no longer depend on the results.

And we can chose to think that we just know every girl that I meet wants to **** me already. And with not caring about the results we will just concentrate on the process and make the seduction the most exciting, playful and full of action path ever.

Even if I fail to bed her she could tell all her friends that want to jump me how it was like when she was hanging with me.

To be honest with myself and you I have not yet achieved total outcome independence. I still seem to find little subtle details that I would never thought about being outcome dependent. Since our brains have got used to this thinking we can barely notice when we are outcome dependent and when we aren't. Focus on being outcome independent and you shall win over your egoistical thinking.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Huffman

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Validation is a drug. It's hard to really be indifferent.
 
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