"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ok maybe you can help me with some thoughts. There is this former friend of mine who is an alpha to the bone. My guess is hes a real natural, a true little machiavelli-kind of guy. I guess im not better because I was a friend of his to learn from him. My problem is that whenever I met him while going out he "steals" all the women I am trying to game and I simply have no chance to compete with him. It breaks my frame some of the time and I haven't figured out a way to handle this.

Maybe it's my pride thats standing in my way but I have to admit he is doing much better than me. I've tried to compete, AMOG maybe in PU terms but hes a class above me. Good with rethorics, high energy guy and very witty. Any experience with this kind of situation?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Vantagepoint34

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quality or quantity

my friend used to match me when it came to dateing alot of girls. Like he dated more than me. Where as I alway would go with a quality hb10 that would come up every once in a while(which I still prefer this method today). It's better if you take it easy while he does all the work, some girl will eventually walk up to you at the party or bar.
 

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Either figure out your own niche of girls that you are better than him or find a different playground and play until you are more confident.

Years ago, I would go out with my mentor, he's about 10 years older than I am. He was better in every way. But due to the age thing, I play a certain age range and he play his. Rarely do we choose the same girl, but if we do, he usually lets me go at it. A true friend.
 

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Galloway -> SparetimeDJ (Sry thats my actual account)

The problem is that he is not really a true friend. I quit friendship with him 2 years ago but he still wants it back. I don't because he is a huge ****block, manipulative and controlling. Actually this guy wrote me a text calling me Judas when i was going to the movies with a group of people including a guy he didn't talk to at the moment. Sounds like a soap opera and it was just like that.

He's like a little Berlusconi and although he is younger than me he plays the teacher card. A master at reframing and a narcissist. I know I have to swallow my pride at some point but I am also sick of getting the "leftovers". I have a lot to do in terms of inner game right now, I know that. Geez it just sucks, lately.
 

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your friends reflect who you are as a person and what you think about yourself...not only that they will influence your behaviour. So with the people that orbit around you you have to ask yourself does this person contribute to my life in a positive way.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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