Out of town plates?

[LukaGrey]

In the last week or so I have been starting to unplug from the "soulmate" myth, and the "there's someone for everyone" myth and have been starting my plate-spinning journey.

I have a few plates that I don't have immediate access to. (1 hour and a half drive from me)

Do you guys recommend still spinning those plates for mental reasons? after all, having options is having options which I feel helps with the alpha attitude that allows me to walk away from girls. Or would you next these girls because I can't really get total value out of them?

Thanks in advance

 

[Gamisch]

In the last week or so I have been starting to unplug from the "soulmate" myth, and the "there's someone for everyone" myth and have been starting my plate-spinning journey.

I have a few plates that I don't have immediate access to. (1 hour and a half drive from me)

Do you guys recommend still spinning those plates for mental reasons? after all, having options is having options which I feel helps with the alpha attitude that allows me to walk away from girls. Or would you next these girls because I can't really get total value out of them?

Thanks in advance

I would definitely keep them around. I mean, the biggest value they can offer is being a plate, right? You don't want then as girlfriends, or wives.

The distance might obviously become a struggle, even with a plate. You cant call up for " emergency sex" , nor can you make a drunk visit due distance . Just examples. Also , I personally prefer women to visit me and a woman will only KEEP taking the effort to travel that distance of she really likes you and she wants more from you.

Generally speaking a plate will stay between 3 to 6 months, before she rotates herself out of your rotation. She'll either find a new D, a BF or concludes you wont submit to her anyway. But that does give you time to find new plates closer to home.

Oh, and be careful with spinning plates in the same location. 99% of us men will string women along and than call them plates on Sosuave instead of being honest about their status. So we rather say she is the only one and treat her like a gf, instead of telling her you got 3 other women and its sex only. This can lead to explosive, embarrassing situations.

 

[LukaGrey]

I would definitely keep them around. I mean, the biggest value they can offer is being a plate, right? You don't want then as girlfriends, or wives.

The distance might obviously become a struggle, even with a plate. You cant call up for " emergency sex" , nor can you make a drunk visit due distance . Just examples. Also , I personally prefer women to visit me and a woman will only KEEP taking the effort to travel that distance of she really likes you and she wants more from you.

Generally speaking a plate will stay between 3 to 6 months, before she rotates herself out of your rotation. She'll either find a new D, a BF or concludes you wont submit to her anyway. But that does give you time to find new plates closer to home.

Oh, and be careful with spinning plates in the same location. 99% of us men will string women along and than call them plates on Sosuave instead of being honest about their status. So we rather say she is the only one and treat her like a gf, instead of telling her you got 3 other women and its sex only. This can lead to explosive, embarrassing situations.

Thanks for the reply.

I have been a bit more covert with it because I find that some girls I meet get turned off by it if it isn't delivered correctly. (sex only) What I do is my whole demeanor is light, casual, and sexual. If she asks what I am looking for I can say "nothing serious" and I can stay firm in my frame and if she leaves, she leaves. That way I can at least catch the girls who weren't looking for just sex but decided to change their minds after they found out I wasn't going to fold to their goals.

Let me know if you approach this in a similar way.

 

[2Rocky]

I find on out of town plates, the time together is higher value, and more exclusive. Thus there is less flaking, and you are more able to plan your interactions. "when we are together, we are together. When we are apart we have to live our lives"

You find a rhythm like every other week or something that you see them in person, make a night or a weekend of it. If you are out on a weekday and want to meet a new prospect for a drink , fine...do it. but you know on next Saturday night you are gonna meet your friend from the city to watch the Rockettes at Radio City and get dinner and spend the night...

 

[Billtx49]

When I was younger, I limited out of town action to about 30 min. travel time and even that got old eventually …
If you have the time, go for it. If your life is busy, you will start to resent the extra travel time.

 

[threeforfree]

I have one, she's 2 hours away, we meet an hour away; halfway between us. We've met in person twice, an every other week thing seems to be working out. When she's with me, she's dressed to the nines... I could take her directly to a formal ****tail party if I wanted to. She's very kino... besides the obvious times of eating a meal or bathroom breaks, etc on an 8 hr meeting (we've been doing dinner, then a show or something, then going to a club for drinks) there's maybe 20 min where she isn't touching me in some manner. She mentioned that she was very impressed with my character that I didn't try to get into her pants on the first date... I'm coming off as sincere and wanting to get to know her as a person.

She's half my age, I don't know how it would work out long term but I'm not worried about that. I was thinking about pressing for the close by date 3, but honestly I'm not going to bail if I don't close for a few more dates. I'm honestly enjoying the things we come up with, her interests are varied from mine enough that I'm doing new events/activities with her and it's a fun, interesting night even without sex.

If she was a boring gal that dressed like the typical woman for a date and just wanted to go for dinner or drinks, I wouldn't have this continued interest, not at that distance. But so far we're keeping it very interesting, and I'm expanding my repertoire of ideas for things to do that I could use on other dates.

So, long story short OP, I wouldn't keep a long distance plate around if she's a generic plate that doesn't offer anything that someone in your town couldn't do. If she seems to bring something special, ride it out and see how it goes. Heck, a hotel room is only $70=100/night.

I agree with the poster above, that it frees you up for other things... and you don't have to worry about taking out someone new and having her showing up at a club when you're with the new plate.

This weekend... salsa dancing lessons.

 

[Barrister]

When spinning plates, I actually prefer my plates to be split up by geography a bit. During my last go-around, I had one relatively close - 5 minutes away- and 2 who were about 45-50 minutes away in opposite directions. The nice thing was I never worried about running into any of the others when I was out with any of the three.

Driving back home can be a b1tch, especially if alcohol is involved. This is essentially the only drawback.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

In the last week or so I have been starting to unplug from the "soulmate" myth, and the "there's someone for everyone" myth and have been starting my plate-spinning journey.

I have a few plates that I don't have immediate access to. (1 hour and a half drive from me)

Do you guys recommend still spinning those plates for mental reasons? after all, having options is having options which I feel helps with the alpha attitude that allows me to walk away from girls. Or would you next these girls because I can't really get total value out of them?

Thanks in advance

It depends. If those plates are in towns/cities you frequently visit then yeah might be worth putting some effort to keep them around.

But only IF that is because you frequent those places for other reasons other than the plate herself.

Meaning, you go there for work, business, friends, family, etc, etc. If your only reason to travel 1+ hour is to see her, then I would see it as simping and p***y whipped.

 

[LukaGrey]

I have one, she's 2 hours away, we meet an hour away; halfway between us. We've met in person twice, an every other week thing seems to be working out. When she's with me, she's dressed to the nines... I could take her directly to a formal ****tail party if I wanted to. She's very kino... besides the obvious times of eating a meal or bathroom breaks, etc on an 8 hr meeting (we've been doing dinner, then a show or something, then going to a club for drinks) there's maybe 20 min where she isn't touching me in some manner. She mentioned that she was very impressed with my character that I didn't try to get into her pants on the first date... I'm coming off as sincere and wanting to get to know her as a person.

She's half my age, I don't know how it would work out long term but I'm not worried about that. I was thinking about pressing for the close by date 3, but honestly I'm not going to bail if I don't close for a few more dates. I'm honestly enjoying the things we come up with, her interests are varied from mine enough that I'm doing new events/activities with her and it's a fun, interesting night even without sex.

If she was a boring gal that dressed like the typical woman for a date and just wanted to go for dinner or drinks, I wouldn't have this continued interest, not at that distance. But so far we're keeping it very interesting, and I'm expanding my repertoire of ideas for things to do that I could use on other dates.

So, long story short OP, I wouldn't keep a long distance plate around if she's a generic plate that doesn't offer anything that someone in your town couldn't do. If she seems to bring something special, ride it out and see how it goes. Heck, a hotel room is only $70=100/night.

I agree with the poster above, that it frees you up for other things... and you don't have to worry about taking out someone new and having her showing up at a club when you're with the new plate.

This weekend... salsa dancing lessons.

Great reply thank you!

Since I am early on I am kinda using this plate to "stroke my ego" a bit and get my confidence and momentum up. Since I have been talking and texting sexually a bit I have a few more in the roster that are closer. If I am not getting responses from high quality ones I can always have her as "proof" that I am high value if I need it. That way I don't slip into a blue pill frame out of scarcity.

Let me know your thoughts on this approach

 

[LukaGrey]

It depends. If those plates are in towns/cities you frequently visit then yeah might be worth putting some effort to keep them around.

But only IF that is because you frequent those places for other reasons other than the plate herself.

Meaning, you go there for work, business, friends, family, etc, etc. If your only reason to travel 1+ hour is to see her, then I would see it as simping and p***y whipped.

Thanks for the reply

I have a few more plates in the rotation now that are hotter, and closer, but I still text this one sometimes to make sure that I am not falling into a scarcity frame with my better ones. (Girls can sniff this out like a dog) I am mostly leveraging her for momentum and to keep my perceived value of myself higher until I get more experienced.

Let me know your thoughts on this approach

 

[2Rocky]

If you find you need to give one plate a little soft next, having one out of town to go see is an easy way to create that "silence and distance".

 

[Hal9000]

I preferred out of town plates, honestly. It meant I never had to worry about them just dropping in on me or running into them when out and about. It basically allowed me to live two different lives where one life never interacted with the other, which I preferred. From thirty to ninety minutes was kind of the sweet spot for me.