"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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As the title states- some friends and I went on a road trip to visit some of our other friends. Great time- lots of drinking. The club was packed with lots of HBs. I was having a good time partying with my friends so I wasn't really on the hunt- that was until I seen easily the hottest HB in the place.
I took my time and waited till there was an opening. Then it happened- she was by my side the rest of the night and closing was easy as pie. There wasn't a second of uncomfortable silence and we got along like old friends! She is very intelligent too!
Its been 3 days now and I think I will contact her tomorrow.

The only problem is she is 2 hours away. So I am planning on making another road trip with a few of my buddies in the next 2-3 weeks. Should be a blast!!!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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What factors helped contribute to your success? It'd be helpful to know.
 

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While I was waiting for the right moment- I kept an eye on her and the people around and noticed that although everyone was checking her out- no one was approaching her.

When I did approach her I was very confident and couldn't have cared less if I failed- because I knew that at least I tried.

The booze was also a factor- a helpful one this time.

I asked her lots of question about herself and before long we were talking non stop with no effort needed.

The tips on here are helpful- but you still need to have your own game. Or be good enough to turn what you read on here into your game.
 

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No game, no hope?

hey, if one has no "game" to begin with and cannot convert what one learned on this site into their "game," then is that person screwed?
 

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congrats on the success.

And man 2 hrs. aint that far away really. I live that far from where I grew up and make it back all the time.

Walking up thinking hell who cares if you fail is the best mindset that I think you can be in. Look at where it got you.

You dont really need game. This guy had success by simply asking questions. Girls love to talk about themselves. Just pay attention and listen a little bit and it aint to hard to get there pants off.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Well I met her Sat and waited till tonight to call her.

Call went very well! I was able to let her do most of the talking without sounding like I was asking 20 questions.

The twist here is that so far she is one of the most confident/ intelligent females I have met!?

Your right 2 hours isn't that far- its even shorter when there is something nice waiting for ya!

She is going to give me a call later this week. This could be more promissing then I thought- but yeah I know- keep the game on and avoid oneitis.
 

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It's a great feeling when you suceed isn't it?
 

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What were the first couple of statements you guys said to each other?

Because I think for me, and many others, that the hardest part
 

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So ... did she call yet?
 

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I haven't heard back from her yet- but its only been one day.

I did the Joey Tribianey (from Friends) and very confidently looked her up and down and said "how you doin'?" with a big smile. She lit up right away and smiled then laughed a bit. Everything just fell into place from there.

It was honestly as though she had been waiting for me to approach her all night and I don't think the first statements would have made a difference- its like has been said on here many times "its not what you say but how you say it"- meaning with confidence! And then you have to remember to keep going as though it was an old friend you were talking to- remain calm and confident.

And yeah it does feel good to suceed! Even if it don't turn into anything serious- at leaset I made the attempt instead of sitting back doind nothing.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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