Out Alone

[Pathgen]

Ok here is the deal, my friends have GF's, or their boring and don't want to go out, but i'm not going to sit around on a saturday. I went out last night and had some fun with some friends, but now I want to try going out on a solo mission to have some fun.

I think I am going to go to a house show at a club in San Francisco because I am awful and striking up a conversation with a stranger and it will give me another reason to be out. Also, being at a house show will give me something I like to listen to if the night goes sour. However, I am also thinking it would be a better learning experience for me if I went to more of a bar setting so I would be forced to talk to people more.

I am looking for advice on what people think about going out alone. Is it weird? I don't think its weird, but others might. I can always lie and tell them that I lost my friend in the crowd somewhere so now I'm out alone.

I understand that the best practice happens in the field and I want to get better. I'm just looking for tips that will make tonight feel a little less awkward.

 

[good looking loser]

Ok here is the deal, my friends have GF's, or their boring and don't want to go out, but i'm not going to sit around on a saturday. I went out last night and had some fun with some friends, but now I want to try going out on a solo mission to have some fun.

I think I am going to go to a house show at a club in San Francisco because I am awful and striking up a conversation with a stranger and it will give me another reason to be out. Also, being at a house show will give me something I like to listen to if the night goes sour. However, I am also thinking it would be a better learning experience for me if I went to more of a bar setting so I would be forced to talk to people more.

I am looking for advice on what people think about going out alone. Is it weird? I don't think its weird, but others might. I can always lie and tell them that I lost my friend in the crowd somewhere so now I'm out alone.

I understand that the best practice happens in the field and I want to get better. I'm just looking for tips that will make tonight feel a little less awkward.

i say- use this as a time to grow and stretch your comfort zone. you'll be glad you did.

the guys that bang upwards of 30-40+ girls a year, nearly ALL go out alone. once you can comfortably, you'll like it because you'll be able to control your logistics better. No drunk people to drive/take care of, no rides, you can bounce with girls ASAP

btw- nobody will know you are out alone, say you know the bartenders (get to know them anyway) if you feel weird about it

 

[PapiChulo]

Learn to run solo. Sometimes having friends with you gives you a false sense security and a confidence boost. I find it that you have to have the right friends or otherwise they will likely screw with you plans for the night. On the other hand, your buddies work as social proof. When I am alone, people tend to assume that I am looking for company, offering me drugs, hookers, etc.

 

[\O/]

Hey man. Going out solo is difficult. No doubt. I've started doing it. My friends are occupied, working, boring etc. You can't rely on your bro's being available at all times. Go out alone!

I still find it difficult, however, when i do it, i feel proud. Most guys would never go out solo. It takes balls. It's cool. No matter how crappy the night turns out, i feel great. I went out alone. I just fvcking did it. It requires confidence. Just being out alone is a success.

What i like to do is going out to a place that has pool tables. That's a perfect excuse to go out alone. Playing pool. You put the money on the table and wait your turn. I normally play for beers and hold the table for several games. Cheap drinks as well I usually get in contact with guys when i do this. That's fine. People are people. After some liquid courage i change venue and start approaching girls. When i'm at this point i do better without a wingman anyways.

I used to be ashamed of going out alone. Now i tell my friends with pride. They respect it. It shows confidence. It's awesome. Just do it

 

[atree]

Pool is a good one to start the evening. Think I'll try that as there's a big pub right next door that has a free pool table. I went out on Friday and very cold, I didn't last 10 mins!

Where are best places to go out solo? Clubs, bars, pubs, gigs?

 

[PeakIV]

You can go anywhere, I went skiing for 2 weeks on my own, met loads of people and even hooked up with dutch chick.

You do what you want when you want. how cool is that!

 

[RedZone]

It's only as weird as you make it. Personally, I love going to a bar alone even if it's just to think. Take pride in knowing that you are doing something that many guys wouldn't do.

 

[Mr. Bond]

I have just as much fun going out alone. The first time I went out by myself, I had one of the most interesting/fun nights ever.

Here's what I did. Play this game by yourself:

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/thegame.htm


Instead of having a friend with me in the bar, I changed the game a bit. I approached every single fvcking female in the place. Old, young, hot, fat, thin, ugly, with a guy, etc. I made so many friends, started introducing groups to each other, etc. I told them all something along these lines:

"Hey, help me out with a bar bet. My friends and I have a bet to see who's the most outgoing. The winner gets free drinks for the rest of the week on the other guys, and I want those drinks. So what we're doing is getting numbers from women. [At this point, they almost all get weirded out] Now this is a bet about being outgoing, not the numbers. So if you aren't comfortable writing down your name and number, you can make up a fake name and a fake number. Just make it believable. [At this point, most of them light up and think this is the most fun ever]

If they ask where your friends are, you can tell them that one of your friends thought he would meet the most people at [nearby bar/location], and another friend thought he would meet the most people at [different nearby bar/location]. You can tell them that you're all meeting up at the end of the night to compare scores.

This is a great way to meet everyone in the bar if you aren't used to going out alone. Eventually you won't need games like this, but it helped me get out of my shell and have fun by myself.